The seven signal flares of sexual desire loss must be taken seriously

Losing sexual desire is not only a hidden danger for people, especially men, but can also be a great shame. In an interview with Dr. Online Medicine, New York marriage and sexuality expert Perel pointed out that once men discover a loss of interest in sex, they will be shocked and lose control, believing that it undermines their image as a man. But few people delve into why they lose their libido. In fact, the loss of sexual desire is not overnight, but a gradual process. Professor Lawman, a sociology professor at the University of Chicago in the United States, believes that there are many reasons for loss of libido. For men, there are generally three aspects to consider: firstly, concerns about their own performance, such as insufficient duration and hard erection;

Secondly, reaching orgasm prematurely, including premature ejaculation;

The third is the heavy workload, excessive mental stress caused by sudden changes in the living environment, and diseases that affect sexual desire and erection status. For women, it is more likely that mental stress issues lead to a lack of sexual arousal. According to Lawman's statistics, only 26% of women always experience orgasm during sexual intercourse. Some men are always trying to please their partners, and the pressure makes them unable to feel the pleasure of sexual intercourse, leading to a loss of libido. In addition, couples who are distant or too close may also stifle their libido. For example, some men highly respect their wives and deliberately suppress their desires in order not to affect each other's fertility or take care of the next generation. Over time, it can also lead to a loss of libido

Lawman believes that if you are not interested in sex for more than three months, you should be vigilant. In order to detect and prevent this problem early, American sexologists have proposed seven warning signals for men and women: only contact occurs in the bedroom; Not feeling a sense of union and sharing through sexual intercourse; In a couple, one person always takes the initiative, while the other person is always passive and helpless, feeling forced; No longer looking forward to sexual activity; Sexual activity becomes mechanical and routine; Lack of sexual fantasies about loved ones; Have sex at most once or twice a month. How can we revitalize people? Experts have provided 8 guidance methods:

1. Exercise stimulates sexual desire. This can make people relax, bring a sense of achievement and vitality, and enhance their confidence in sexual life.

2. Don't expect too much from sex. Not every sexual encounter must be perfect, only 40-50% of sexual activity can achieve mutual satisfaction. In addition, sexual frequency is not the only criterion for sexual desire, it is normal to feel good before, after, and during sexual intercourse.

3. Sexual fantasies. Marriage experts see sexual fantasies as a good thing. This can increase the pleasure of "old husbands and wives" and warm up the unchanging sexual experience.

4. Create an atmosphere.

5. Pay attention to the process. Both men and women should take time to gently touch and not go straight to the topic.

6. Communication and learning. Couples should communicate on how to improve their libido by reading a sex book together to let each other know that they are seeking ways to make sex better.

7. Attend more gatherings with friends. When going out for dinner with friends, you will have the opportunity to see a new side of your partner and recall how interesting and exciting they are. Similarly, the other party also has the opportunity to see your shining points. In this way, you will remember why you were attracted to each other and came together.

If none of the above methods are effective, it is necessary to seek timely medical attention, examination, and treatment for related diseases that lead to loss of sexual desire.