Don't think that once you get married, you won't break up in love. There are many long-distance partners and couples who have lost their enthusiasm, and one of the reasons is that both of them have become boring people. Are you an interesting person? Is he an interesting person? Imagine any idol drama, if the male and female protagonists can have lively love, both of them must have something lovely - at least in each other's eyes.
When they get along, they have some childlike innocence, some genuine expressions of spirit, and sometimes just a small idea that makes people laugh and laugh
Couples who break up in marriage lack these elements of interest.
One situation is that you really become very uninteresting, becoming uninteresting in absolute terms. Not only do partners find you uninteresting, but even children, family, and friends find you uninteresting. Why did it become like this?
Most of the time, it's not your fault. You may be a very serious person who, once you enter a certain role, works hard, and works hard to do what you need to do. Over the years, all you are familiar with is things related to your family. You stop absorbing new knowledge from other fields, and you cannot care about other things because the family matters you care about already occupy all your time. Even if you have time, you cannot allow yourself to spend your energy on things unrelated to your family.
The other half may have the same situation, so he also becomes very boring. A person who uses the same methods to do the same things day after day, coupled with age, is more likely to resist new things, and even feel afraid of new stimuli. Staying within their comfort zone will gradually become boring.
As long as one partner enters this situation, it is difficult to have any sparks between them. I must emphasize here that an uninteresting couple can also know and cherish each other, stay close to each other, and have a sweet life that others do not understand, but this is not within the scope of discussion, because they do not suffer from heartbreak. What we are discussing here is: wives who need to have a sense of love, but do not know that boredom is the root cause of the problem.
Boredom is a destroyer of life's atmosphere
Compared to the situation where the absolute value becomes uninteresting as mentioned above, some people are not uninteresting themselves, but the other half is out of sync or lacks appreciation. In front of others, you may be an interesting person, but in the eyes of your partner, you are very uninteresting.
This is really an infuriating situation - I am clearly very charming. In the world, only you can't see me, you are like an ice sheet that freezes people, and being with you is like casting pearls before swine. These complaints are all quite good, and more wives directly say to psychotherapists: My husband is simply a living dead person.
This situation often occurs because the things we focus on each other do not intersect, and life develops in different directions. The interests, beliefs, and professions of a couple may not necessarily be the same, but if they are different, they must often share with each other. If they do not maintain communication seriously, they will gradually drift away and unknowingly reach a distance where they cannot understand each other's interests.
There is a wife who continues to develop an interest in art and literature, but her husband never watches exhibitions or doesn't listen to concerts. He thinks those things are unrealistic. In her eyes, this husband is very boring, and in her eyes, she is also very boring.
Some men enjoy sports and constantly purchase new sports equipment, such as golf, tennis, weight training, etc., but their wives dislike sports. In the cases I know, there are also people who are allergic to sunlight and grass, so they are completely unable to go to sports with their husbands. If they don't have other common concerns, it's easy to feel that their other half is boring.
There are many similar situations where some people focus not on hobbies such as sports or art, but on children who do not change their mode of speaking to their partner. For example, when the child is not around, the wife says to her husband, 'You need to eat all the remaining vegetables!'! Is this kind of scene actually quite scary?
No matter what the reason is, one cannot continue to expand their horizons, and the whole person becomes a single plane without any three-dimensional sense, without vitality or new possibilities. This is an uninteresting person.
When encountering marital breakups, women often lock in issues based on cultural inertia, such as: I am old and pale, he is tired of watching; When I have a child and my figure changes, he changes his mind; I frugal and didn't dress up, so he lost interest. The conclusion of these ideas is that the husband has no conscience.
The most common misconception among men is that they don't earn enough money and are looked down upon by their wives. In fact, these are often not the root cause of the problem, and even with these problems, they usually don't completely eliminate the good feelings in marriage.
Many couples still have beautiful bodies and great achievements, but in terms of human perception, it is really boring, which is the reason for the slow loss of love.