Post Date December, 03 2023
Today, I saw a few words from Zen Xiaoyan on Weibo, which made me feel very benefited. The so-called true love experts, or emotional analysts who answer questions and doubts for everyone, are all from the people. There are only two types, one is lovelessness, and the other is experiencing and sharing experiences firsthand. Suddenly, I realized that I was not on either side. Imagine that after living for 25 years, I have never been in love. Whether in search or single love, there is always no successful love experience to share with everyone. For the second type, I am unfair and broke. To say that there is no love, I don't think I can do it, can I? But I still persevered.
I feel like someone who makes up stories for everyone. How to say, although I have replied to most of the emails from netizens, many of them hope not to post them on their blogs, and I have simply modified them. Another thing is that Xiaobei never likes to write things without illness and moaning. Anyway, I have still become an "emotional expert" for more people in need of help. I know I don't deserve such a title. But over the past three years, I have been worthy of my doubts and answers. At least I have a clear conscience, and at least more people will say thank you to me after receiving my reply.
I received a phone call inexplicably today. Say you want to chat with me. Because initially, Xiaobei introduced in his blog that if you chat over the phone, you need to pay. For this, I know that many colleagues will despise me. I think it doesn't matter. That woman just said, hoping I can give her a more reliable answer. She said she wrote a lot of emails to some so-called emotional experts and also conducted paid consultations. But I still haven't got the answer I want.
The woman's husband is the vice president of a certain enterprise. I don't have much work on weekdays, but most of the time is not spent on myself, but on nightclubs or casinos. She told me that she and her husband got to know each other since we were in high school. Later on, both of them had a good impression of each other and got together. When I was in college, the two people were actually not together. Due to her long-distance relationship, her husband was afraid that she would be taken away by another man after graduating from college, so he tried his best to transfer to the university she attended. She was moved by him because of his persistence.
They got married after four years of college graduation. At that time, the relationship between the two was very good. But there are some small details, as her personality belongs to the outgoing and lively type, while her husband is a narrow-minded and stingy man. That's how their marriage buried the fuse. Her carelessness, his meticulousness. Later on, it led to the husband's bad habit of not returning day and night.
She cried, hoping that I could give her an answer to a question. She said, why did he choose to avoid each other when she was completely serious about taking care of their love?
Here, Xiaobei hopes that some netizens who read this article can also help answer some of the woman's doubts. I have already introduced some information about this woman in the first two paragraphs of the question.
Xiaobei's response to this woman is that marriage, like love, will be hurt in some small details. Marriage under the care of love requires each other to carefully understand each other at all times, rather than acting according to their own personalities. Especially for marriages after passionate love, it is even more important to take careful care of them, otherwise when you encounter a small setback, you will completely lose the marriage castle under the fortress of love.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
