Post Date December, 02 2023
Xiao Lin and his wife are colleagues who work in the same office. At that time, Xiao Lin was not enlightened and his wife took the initiative to pursue him. Others thought they were quite suitable and got married in a daze. Xiao Lin loves writing and often goes out to chat with friends on weekends. His wife takes the child back to her parents' house. His wife is quite supportive of him, always asking him how much an article can sell for. Xiao Lin thinks his wife's love for money is too vulgar.
Xiaoling is 14 years younger than Xiaolin, and she was only 20 years old when she met. She is a dancer. She is beautiful and initially has a particularly gentle personality. They always have endless words to say together. To be honest, when Xiao Lin fell in love with her, he never had time to think about his own situation, nor did he expect things to be so troublesome in the future. Xiaolin's wife somehow became aware of this matter, and she didn't speak up and always let the child follow Xiaolin. During the holiday season, she took Xiao Lin everywhere to visit relatives and friends who used to be less mobile, but now she takes him there.
Xiaolin can't take the child to see Xiaoling, can he? I can't help but explain to Xiaoling that work is too busy. At first, Xiaoling was quite considerate, but later she couldn't do it anymore. She cried hysterically on the phone, saying that she didn't love her and that he was lying to her. In fact, in order for her to take the exam, Xiaolin quietly saved some money for her, and her name was written on the passbook. Later, Xiaolin's wife retrieved this passbook and they had a fight, causing a particularly sad argument. How did Xiaoling know about these! Xiaoling asked Xiaolin to divorce, but Xiaolin didn't want to, but there were too many practical problems: what should the child do? What would colleagues think? Their family used to be the "Five Good Families" in the workplace. His mother, his father, his mother and his father can't forgive him, not to mention relatives and friends! Moreover, Xiaolin had just made some achievements in his career and was appointed as the deputy director of the research laboratory, which greatly affected his work. His head swelled at the thought of divorce.
Some people say that in men's lives, they always yearn for two types of women in their hearts. One is the Virgin Mary type, kind and virtuous; One type is fairy like, romantic and charming. Those who find the 'Virgin Mary' may also need to look for the 'Fairy', and those who find the 'Fairy' will also search for the 'Virgin Mary'. For men with these two types of infidelity, their likelihood of divorce is relatively low. They generally do not adopt the methods of breaking and standing to gain the love of another type of woman. Otherwise, they will fall into the quagmire of love, marriage, and extramarital affairs. In addition, some people just want to hunt for extramarital beauty through extramarital affairs to satisfy their inflated possessiveness. These people are even less willing to gamble on marriage.
From the perspective of marriage, divorce is a very heavy blow to both parties, whether you are willing to do so or not. When an affair is exposed or develops to the point where the lover requests marriage, the issue of divorce and remarriage will suddenly arise in front of the affair. At this time, their inner conflicts and contradictions will be very intense, and even make some people feel unbearable pain. Due to the powerful influence of social morality, public opinion, social responsibility, and family obligations, and the fact that divorce itself may have a significant negative impact on the hearts of the parties, children, and other family members, and even cause serious harm, they may retract their promises and retreat into the arms of relatively safe but also warm loved ones when facing choices.
For married men like Xiao Lin, who are in the "flower season" age, it is inevitable that they will be tempted by beauty and obsessed with love in social life. At this time, the most important thing is to reflect on yourself. If your love flame has completely extinguished, it is a good sign of reigniting the flame of life. However, if this is not the case, then it is necessary to analyze marriage, find ways to ignite romantic love within marriage, and limit the desire for alternative women to a certain extent that does not harm others. When extramarital affairs may occur, it is important to consider the consequences that this situation may have for oneself and others. If you don't want a divorce at all, it's best to go back to the original point, avoid unnecessary troubles and pain, and avoid hurting others.
