My husband and I originally worked in the same company and had a happy married life.
In order to spend more time together, we recently made efforts to transfer to the same department. We thought this would make us more intimate, but unfortunately, we found that the number of arguments we had significantly increased. What's the matter?
Ms. Zhai:
A situation like yours and your husband can be referred to as a 'couple colleague'. So, what impact does a couple colleague have on their work and life? How to adjust this complex relationship?
Firstly, husband and wife colleagues can easily disrupt the boundaries between their work and life. When two people work, they are colleagues, but they use the standards of marital love to demand each other; After work, it was originally living time, but the two were still discussing work, resulting in no living time. And for couples without boundaries, that is, chaotic couples, your relationship can easily become a "colleague non colleague, husband and wife non husband" relationship.
Couple colleagues often experience a sense of 'integration' if they handle it well. Because husband and wife colleagues spend more time together and can communicate in a wide range of fields, they are more likely to become "career partners and good friends in life." As long as you handle the boundaries between work and life, you can easily become an enviable happy couple.
Couple colleagues need to have a stage of adjustment, and it is normal for you and your husband to have arguments and other issues at the beginning. If you can strengthen communication, you can gradually develop into a stage of "integration". Couples who have gone through these stages will have deeper emotions and more proficient work.