In love, promises reassure women and upset men. Women all hope that men can make promises to themselves, but many men are afraid of promises because they feel that the promises they make are debts. Let's analyze why men are afraid of commitment?
1. Afraid of changing their own life mode: "Are we not good together now? Why should we change?" This should be the most common reason heard in movies and real life, but being abused is not necessarily an excuse. In fact, like other animals, humans are really reluctant to change their accustomed life style. If you don't understand, look at the colleagues who complain about their work every day but still haven't changed their jobs.
2. Men are cowardly: "A man is afraid of commitment because he loves that woman too much. If he loves a woman deeply, there is no difference between commitment and not." If you believe this argument, please immediately throw away Qiongyao's love story at home. Men are afraid of commitment. Most of them are afraid of taking responsibility for their commitments. The cells that do not want to be responsible are basically the same as male hormones, and are rooted in male genes. The difference is that some men are more, and some men are less.
3. Freedom: Darwin once listed the reasons for not getting married: "You can go to any place you like freely; you can go to the club to talk to people at will; you don't have to visit relatives and friends, and you don't have to worry about trifles." The reason why modern men don't want to get married is: you can go to any place you like freely; You can go to the bar to "fart" at will; Don't be forced to visit relatives and friends. Don't worry about trifles. Men like freedom, which will remain unchanged throughout the ages.
4. Afraid of changing you: Many girls regard marriage as a turning point in life, and many men regard marriage as a turning point in their partner's personality and body shape. If you and your boyfriend have married women around you, please pay special attention to whether they have married friends who are "teachable". They may be an important reason to scare your boyfriend.
5. Money: Marriage is a major event in life, and its degree is directly proportional to the money spent on marriage. However, all the expenses related to marriage, such as gift money, wedding banquet, wedding dress, and wedding photos, have two common points: expensive, and can only be used once (at least, I hope only once).
6. Choices: From "marriage is the tomb of love" to "no reason to give up a whole forest for a tree", many arguments against marriage are merely reiterating the same concept: "you are the boss if you have a choice". Although it does not mean that every man likes three wives and four concubines, it is an indisputable fact that marriage equals giving up the right to choose. If it were you, the whole street is full of boutiques. Would you like to enter only one of them in your life?
7. Time: When he wants to get married, you think it's not the right time. When you want to get married, he thinks the economic environment is not as good as ideal. Pick the wrong time to "wrong timing" and finish.