What is the most painful thing in life? The discovery that the person who dug the bottom of his love wall is his best friend can also be regarded as a thrill, which makes people want to cry without tears. In this case, many people will not hesitate to expose this shameless matter, showdown with their friends, tear their faces, and never communicate with each other. But from a rational point of view, this is not a good way to deal with it. How to better deal with the problem that the third child is the best friend? You need to think calmly and plan some solutions.
First, analyze the reason why the mistress appears between you and your lover. You must thoroughly understand whether your lover is pulling your friend to become a third party, or whether your friend cannot resist the charm of your lover and is willing to take risks to become a third party. This is the clue to solve the whole problem, as well as the key and key point of the problem. Only by finding out the source of the problem can we grasp the key point, apply the right medicine to the case, and get twice the result with half the effort.
Secondly, from the lover's point of view, whether your attractiveness is declining and your shortcomings are exposed more and more, which makes the lover produce aesthetic fatigue such as boredom and boredom. For example, when we first fell in love, we paid more attention to our personal image, and always showed it in front of each other in a sunny, warm, generous, gentle and considerate way. However, in the subsequent exchanges, we gradually became casual, slovenly, careless, and unruly. The differences between the two people are also growing day by day. We always let our friends play the role of mediator, so that our friends continue to appear in your love life, Hidden dangers have been buried before you know it.
Then, from the point of view of friends, whether love has changed into possessive desire because of the time. Many people like to bask in happiness in front of their friends when they are in love. They talk about the various advantages of lovers. They continue to brush the screen of lovers in front of their friends, deepening the impression of lovers in their hearts again and again. As soon as they are happy, they will invite their lovers to have dinner and play with their friends. They have become acquaintances with each other, and have a variety of contact methods. When they have the opportunity, they will get together. Later, when there was a little noise, I would talk to my friends heartily. In this way, the onlookers see clearly, the spectators are confused, and friends gradually know the subtle relationship between you and your lover better than anyone else. More contact, more understanding and more contact. If lovers and friends have good feelings, the relationship will naturally rise. Once friends dig the wall, your love castle will be easy to topple.
Again, insinuate subtly. Although your heart is full of anger and injustice, you still need to control your emotions, do things better, and don't make the situation impossible to clean up. You can take the form of analogy. In a relaxed environment, you can separately give examples of similar third party involvement to lovers and friends, analyze the adverse consequences of this problem, and then talk about your own ideas. During the dialogue, pay attention to looking at the other party with affectionate and sincere eyes, and let the other party feel the seriousness of this situation and your feelings and attitude.
Finally, increase the love for lovers and reduce or avoid the opportunities for lovers to contact with friends. Recently, there are more and more cases of friends and girlfriends getting involved in love. To a large extent, I have inadvertently created many opportunities for lovers to have in-depth understanding with friends and girlfriends. Although it is said that friends should be frank with each other and should not have psychological distance, in love, everyone is selfish, and emotion is not easy to control. Therefore, it is best to keep a distance between lovers and friends. Intimacy can only belong to you and lovers, and you only need not neglect your friends.
In a positive direction, this is not a real opportunity to know yourself, lovers, and friends. It can make you reflect on your own shortcomings, and also let you see the true face of your lover, consider whether to continue the relationship, and make you re-examine your friend's behavior and consider the density of friendship between each other.