Sexual Health
What should I do if I fall in love with a married man who is over 20 years older than me
Reader consultation:
I feel imbalanced in my heart. I love a man who is over twenty years older than me, and I love him very much. We have known each other for seven years, and during these seven years, he only truly cared about me last year.
Since May last year, we have been together almost every day, but in the past month, I feel like he has changed and doesn't love me as much as before. He has a family, and I also have a family. I feel that he is very afraid of his wife. He values his family very much. From last year to August this year, he has been arguing with his wife without leaving, and his relationship has not been good. His heart has returned to his family now, but I love him very much, but he doesn't love me so much now. If he wants to come to me occasionally, you can teach me how to do it?
reply:
Hello, the biggest harm caused by extramarital affairs is actually women. Men often play with women with a playful mentality, while women often get stuck in it and find it difficult to extricate themselves. Men are animals that think in the lower body, while women are animals that prioritize emotions. Men value sex, women value love, so women will suffer in extramarital affairs because you can't afford to play.
You all have families, have you ever cared about your family? Have you ever considered someone else's family? Have you ever thought about how your parents would feel if they knew you were doing this? You can deeply love a man, but you must have the right to love. During the marriage, do you have the right to love other men?
I can responsibly tell you that this man doesn't love you at all, just plays with you. He can't give up his family at any time because his wife is water and you are wine. He can live without wine, but he can't live without water. Can you understand what I'm saying? He is only looking for temporary adjustments and stimulation with you, while the mundane life with his wife still needs to continue. Men are always rational animals, and they always understand that mediocrity is true.
And women are foolish when they are reckless and fully devoted, always feeling that hard work pays off. They get deeper and deeper in the pursuit of beautiful love like selflessness. Once they are deceived by men, they are unwilling and imbalanced. If they don't get it, they will never give up. We must investigate why, and this mentality often harms women. In fact, you know that the other party cannot give you results, but you cannot let go of this entanglement. However, the more you entangle this abnormal emotion, the more magical it becomes to attract you, and the deeper it hurts you. Because people have a despicable mentality, that is, they cannot get the best, and once you get it, you will not cherish it as much.
From now on, you definitely don't want to bow down and give up in front of this relationship, because you dare not admit your failure. You even want to save your face and dignity through further entanglement and persistent kowtowing, but if this continues, you will lose even more miserably. You must now recognize the true face of this man and stop being deceived by his false packaging. He is not worth your love, and you have no right to love him. Wake up and return to yourself.