In life, many men are full of various fantasies about friendship from an early age. They hope that their friendship with their friends can be unbreakable, that they can rely on and trust each other with their classmates, and even more hope that friends can be close as brothers and sisters, sharing weal and woe with each other. This is the goal of friendship in the minds of men.
Men have high expectations for friendship. They say that a man's friendship is absolutely loyal and reliable, and will never change until he dies. A friend is not only a listener, but also a teacher and a person who can help him solve problems. It is said that men are born with an instinct: to have a deep insight into the abilities of others, and to have an intuitive sense of whether the other person can provide assistance and support when they are in danger.
In fact: only a few men get real friendships
Why do only a few men get real friendship? The reason lies in the attitude and mentality of men in making friends. A prudent man makes fewer but better friends because he can be as serious and sincere towards his bosom friend as a lover. However, it is not easy for a man to obtain true friendship, which requires long-term testing and tempering. Only through various tests can one become a brotherly relationship, understand each other, help and respect each other, and become an unforgettable friend.
Men make intimate friends through several stages - the germination stage, the companionship stage, the friendly stage, and finally the unfaithful friendship stage.
1. Germination stage:
The budding stage is the initial stage of friends. Some of the friends in this stage are relatively chaotic and very extensive. This period includes relationships with colleagues, superiors, subordinates, business, etc., but only slightly familiar with them and met several times. These are budding friends.
2. Companion stage
With so many friends together, it is difficult to find a common goal with oneself. Men spend their spare time searching for common ground among many circles of friends, getting close to each other, finding people who are close to themselves, who can talk to themselves, and becoming good friends. Therefore, they enter the "companionship stage".
Friendship has reached the stage of companionship, and men's circle of friends has begun to narrow. Among the partners, men have begun to be defensive and close to each other. In the partnering stage of a man, there is usually nothing sincere to talk about, just perfunctory, and there is no conflict of interest.