Post Date December, 03 2023
What do men expect from the woman they love? Body shape, appearance, ability, family background, and personality may all be possible, but a sincere intimate relationship begins when the man feels that the woman "truly loves him.".
To "truly love a man" means to avoid criticizing his motivation to love you; Avoid placing him in a gender category - for example, picky men always do, men always do; Understand his abilities and avoid asking him to give more than he can; And avoid unfairly transferring responsibility to him when problems arise in the relationship.
After chatting with hundreds of men about their ideal intimate relationship, the following "men's manifesto" was collected:
"When I suggest that she makes me feel stressed, she can readily accept it without accusing me of being picky or not loving her. I hope she can bring our relationship closer according to the way we discussed."
"She can admit that she also has a selfish side. I am not the only self centered person. Her own devotion to love is limited, and sometimes she only uses me to meet her requirements. In addition, I do not want her subconscious to hide some stereotypes and negative feelings about men."
"She knows that communication should be two-way. When we can calmly discuss the reasons after a dispute, I hope she knows that my intense reaction is partially influenced by her. I don't want to be referred to as the" problematic party "or" not knowing how to love someone. "
"She loves the real me, not the perfect me in her fantasy. I don't want to just satisfy her romantic fantasy, because I know that reality is not like this, and the result may make her even more disappointed."
"She won't sacrifice anything else around her for me or our relationship, because doing so will make me feel compelled to give more than I am willing to give. In other words, I hope the woman I love can understand that when I give less than she expects, it's not necessarily my fault."
"She can allow me to have my own opinions and won't force me to change them because she thinks my opinions are inappropriate."
"When encountering problems, she can fight side by side with me; when we have disputes, she can see it as a communication method to bring each other closer, rather than thinking that I am asking questions to find trouble."
"She won't ask me too much to exceed my ability to make her happy. I don't want her to change herself to cater to me, and I want me to be responsible for her sacrifice, "She doesn't just tell me that she has any dissatisfaction with our relationship, but rather suggests some ways to improve it. I don't want to constantly guess her thoughts. Is she unhappy now? When a problem arises, being told that it exists is not enough; I prefer that she work with me to solve the problem."
"I may be a more self centered person, but I don't want my motives misunderstood, and I don't want to be seen as neglecting this relationship when I do something wrong."
"She can give me what I want, not what she wants me to get."
"She won't overestimate or underestimate me, I'm just an ordinary person - with advantages and disadvantages, and I have a vulnerable side just like her."
