Post Date December, 03 2023
There are four criteria for a good marital relationship
Both spouses share common or mutually accepted values.
Sincerely pay attention to the happiness and development of your spouse.
3. Be able to seek common ground while reserving minor differences and tolerate existing differences.
4. Enjoy equal control and decision-making rights.
Three suggestions for maintaining a reasonable marital relationship:
Adjust the distance between ideal and reality
Everyone has their own ideal model for marriage and love. When dreams are replaced by plain living, problems or crises arise. Have a clear mind about marriage. "We cannot hope that love will always burn at a high level. Some people have likened passionate love to a cup of boiling water, which needs to be slowly cooled down during marriage until it becomes a cup of drinkable warm water, as is the case with marital relationships.".
Strengthen understanding and communication between couples
The biggest problem in couples' lives is not understanding each other's needs. Psychologists have found that 73% of wives and husbands do not know their spouse or their needs. American psychologists believe that in marriage, the emotional needs of men and women are different: what men think is important, women may think is not important; What women think is important, men may think is not important. Therefore, in order to achieve a successful marital relationship, it is necessary to understand the emotional needs of the other party.
Human needs are not static, and the standards of marital relationships can also change. At the time of marriage for 7 to 8 years, there are significant changes in marital standards.
3. Timely seek help when encountering problems
It is normal for couples to encounter some problems. Because everyone is not a professional, it is difficult to handle such problems, and there may even be situations where they "take the wrong medicine and prescribe the wrong prescription.". Therefore, it is recommended to seek the help of a marriage or psychological counselor in a timely manner when encountering marital issues that make it difficult for you to cope with.
