Q:
I don't know if you have any similar experience with me. I'm afraid to go home, because I don't know what my wife will do to quarrel with me.
I feel that as a man, I am a failure. Maybe my life is envied by others. Yes, my position is fair, my salary is good, my wife is beautiful, and I have a seven-year-old son. What are you dissatisfied with? It's all the glory before people and the hardship after people. Who knows?
My wife picked on me like crazy and never stopped. In my memory, I don't remember what it was like when we didn't fight. The child has been sent back to my hometown, and my mother is taking care of him. Because adults quarreled, I can't take care of the child at all. I'm also worried that my son will learn from his wife. He will swear at a young age. I don't want my son's temper to become as good as his mother's.
That is to say, an assistant of a cooperative client took the initiative to care about me. I was really worried about the disorderly account at home, so I told the little girl about it. Unexpectedly, she was very considerate and opened me up. There was hardly any accident. We developed into that kind of relationship.
She is a very nice girl. She told me frankly that she sympathizes with me and feels that I can't listen easily. She knows that although my wife is unreasonable and makes such a mess, I won't divorce easily for my son. She told me that she would not ask me to divorce and marry her as long as we could stay together, but if she found a boyfriend, she also hoped that I could bless her.
Strange to say, after having such a woman, I feel that I can tolerate my wife. My wife can quarrel or scold. When I think about her, I feel relieved. My wife's behavior gradually does not affect me.
But I found that I can't leave now. I am more and more infatuated with the feeling of being with her, and often feel that I can't leave her for a moment. I had an idea. Can I get rid of the past and go with her? But for my family and children, I don't know what will happen if I ask for a divorce. I'm afraid of my wife going to extremes, but I'm more worried about whether the lover will be willing to? She is very sensible, but sometimes she can't see through her mind.
A:
You have been completely fascinated by this extramarital woman. She is an employee of your company's partner, and she is clearly the direct beneficiary of making friends with you. Otherwise, why does she care about you for a man who is so sentimental and frustrated in his family?
There are not so many coincidences. All coincidences are arranged by people with a heart. You must admit that some people have clear ideas and don't mind trading their emotional relationships for benefits. You should have helped your wife get rid of emotional disorders (anxiety, irritability, depression...) and restore peace to the family, but you mistakenly chose to escape, introduce new problems to the family, and plunge yourself into the emotional vortex.
When you walk on the steel wire on the cliff, there is fog at the foot, which obscures your vision and makes you unable to see how dangerous the road you are walking on. If the hidden interest chain between the third party and you is known by the company's top or other senior executives, what is your future? Once you can't stop writing, your wife and family will know what you have done. How to clean up the situation?
Choosing loyalty in marriage is more about taking responsibility for yourself.