If you want to marry him, you must master the psychology of men. Don't fall in love for several years, but in the end he married another woman. Men's psychology about marriage is completely different from that of women. Let's take a look at how men's various psychological concepts are.
1、 Men are visual animals
For all kinds of motives, maybe in order to get you, maybe because of inferiority complex, or because he is afraid that his woman is too beautiful to control, or because he sincerely loves your pure and beautiful heart, maybe he will declare that he doesn't care about external appearance, and you are always the most beautiful. nonsense! Unless a man is blind, he will always love beautiful women. When walking on the street, he will definitely look at long-legged beautiful women instead of buying vegetables. If you give up the pursuit of beauty, then men will also give up the pursuit of love. It is so cruel, even saints. After all, turning yourself upside down will not hurt you, will it?
2、 Men's object selection
There is no man who doesn't want to get married, because for men, getting married and starting a career is a system to establish social identity. For men who want social power, there has never been the question of "whether to marry or not", only the question of "who to marry". So, if you and a man enter the stage of marriage, and he refuses to make a statement, don't doubt what you have done wrong. The problem is with him. That man doesn't want to marry you, but he won't admit it. As for the reason - first, I dare not be responsible. He would say, honey, why don't we care about that piece of paper? In fact, he cares most about that piece of paper, because with that piece of paper, he has to pay the responsibilities of his family, as well as the responsibilities of both families. He is unwilling. Second, he didn't want to lose the whole forest. If a man marries you today and goes to work tomorrow, he will lose his position of flirting with the new female colleague, and he will not. Third, the most important thing is that he doesn't love you enough. Don't mention how long you lived with him in the year and year, and how long you lived with him. Once you broke up, he could get married within half a year. Those excuses for refusing to marry that were more hairy than his legs were gone. So don't worry about what's wrong with yourself. For men who don't even have the sincerity to marry, we should learn to be smart and play.
3、 Men's concept of marriage
Jianghu is dangerous, my good lady! You also said that he is good at everything. You are moved. Are other women blind or stupid? You may still be reserved and calculating the time and frequency ratio between answering the phone and agreeing to a date, but other women have already started! Are you going to be passive forever? You won't die if you take the initiative. However, you should take the initiative beautifully and take the initiative like a passive one. You are only responsible for creating opportunities, while performance and expression should be left to him! As for the matter of getting married with a ball, you can see from the entertainment news that there are often female stars who successfully marry to high-quality Xiaokai and soon have a baby. Do you really think this is a coincidence? Careless pregnancy, and then marriage, this move is a must kill! If the target is targeted, it is not a problem to get married. Anyway, as long as the goal is achieved, the two people will be happy. As for the order, who cares?
4、 Men's concept of love
Oh, good girl, you are trapped by a man: he asks you to be generous, he asks you to trust, and he gives you a high hat of a good wife and mother. If you really wear it on your head, you will become an idle wife and a cool mother. There is no prosecution for your grievances. What freedom do men want? When he really loves a woman, what is freedom? He will offer you his freedom in both hands, and ask you to give him the shackles of love. The word "stinginess" must be invented by a man. Because he wants to have fun, he wants to support others, and he doesn't want to carry a cross, so he says you are stingy, making you think you are really wrong. What is drinking tea and chatting with your ex-girlfriend? Is there any woman in the world who doesn't mind this? I don't believe it. Drinking tea, eating rice and talking about the past, men have no waves or ripples in their hearts? I don't believe it. The more a good woman hypnotizes herself and trusts him, the more serious the injury may be. In fact, it really need not be so great. Stop pretending to be generous, face up to your own needs, stop wronging yourself, repressing yourself, hiding secretly, being unhappy, and being stingy. What are you afraid of? Besides, if he really loves you, he will first consider whether you are happy or not. The first thing he respects will be you. He will not spend time with other girls, and he will always think of you.
5、 Men's psychological attitude
Good men don't pry others' feet, so even if they love you and watch you cry in the arms of bad men, they are also gentlemen and keep a distance from you. How can a good man get you if you don't leave a bad man? Some things can be forgiven, such as smelly feet, too much salt in cooking, and forgetting to buy you a gift. But some things can't be forgiven. Deliberately cheat again and again, ignore your feelings and trample on your self-esteem. Giving bad men opportunities again and again will only enlarge their appetite. If a man shamelessly hurts you, let him go. Then, leave the opportunity to the person you love. A woman will inevitably be silly once in her life, but it's better to be silly. If you learn to be smart, smart people will appreciate you and love you.
6、 Men's concept of choice
He has made the best choice for him, hasn't he? What you mean to him has become a bag of instant noodles. If you are willing, he will be hungry one day, soak you, eat you, and solve the problem. You are disposable garbage, and he will never linger. Don't fantasize any more. Not everyone is as noble as you. If you really can't put it down, it's better to take this as an opportunity to perfect yourself. Make yourself more perfect. You can write down what's wrong with you, so he doesn't love you, and then improve them. For example, if you have thick legs, ok, go to the gym, go to Pilates, and half a year later, when you have sexy and perfect legs, you will forget your original purpose of fitness, and forget his dignity as well.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)