Sexual Health
The Best Love between Sister and Brother in Chongqing: Wife, Husband, Little Man, Oedipus complex
The 89-year-old wife of Chongqing Elderly Home married a 66-year-old man, with a difference of 23 years. It was also a love story at dusk, which was truly heartwarming for a moment. Nowadays, many men prefer older women and tend to have sibling relationships. For example, in the article, during his youth, he married Ma Yili, who was eight years older than him. Recently, it was reported in the United States that a man enjoyed spending beautiful time with the elderly.
From a psychological point of view, this kind of love between sister and brother is not pure love, but a Oedipus complex. The reasons for the re emergence of the Oedipus complex are as follows.
1、 Maternal love deficiency type
If a boy gains maternal love at the age of 0-3, or if there are regrets about maternal love, then his psychological need for maternal love will shift to the other side of the marriage. Traditional Chinese medicine talks about "what is missing to make up for what is missing", and the same goes for people's psychological deficiencies. If a boy lacks maternal love, he will subconsciously have a liking for a woman of the elder sister and mother type, and attachment to the warmth she gives. A woman is not only a wife, but also a mother. When she is fragile, she can attach herself and confide. Older women, on the other hand, have more maternal love and are more gentle, which is precisely what young men who lack maternal love are confused and yearning for, because this warmth makes them unconsciously addicted and hopeful. Like Professor Snape in Harry Potter, his mother abandoned him at a young age for his father's sake. Without maternal love, he met Lily and gave her his love for his mother, falling in love with this woman who was full of maternal love and tenderness.
2、 Maternal love flooding type
Some children from single parent families have a strong attachment to their mother, and naturally tend to find a woman similar to their mother when looking for a wife. Due to his mother's indulgence, he has been favored by his children and has always regarded himself as a child psychologically. Therefore, as an adult, finding a wife also subconsciously makes him feel like a mother. When choosing a partner now, the first thing women need to do is to see if the other person is from a single parent family. Children from a single parent family will either ponder or give up directly, because men from a single parent family have a strong attachment to their mother, and after marrying them, they will have to compete with their mother to have children. In 'Blue Blood Sword', Xia Xueyi was raised by her mother's elder sister, so she has a good impression of women who are as gentle as her mother and elder sister. This is also the reason why He Hongyao was abandoned and Wen Yi made him love. Wen Yi is very similar to his mother and elder sister, and he transfers his feelings towards them to Wen Yi, regaining the feeling of home as if his mother and elder sister have never been far away.
Between siblings, men and women play different roles. The maternal love of older women is awakened by their younger husband, who treats him as a child and indulges him. The younger husband is attached to maternal love, and the care and warmth of the older wife make the younger husband addicted.