Post Date December, 03 2023
The conventional idea of finding and solving problems is always the basic way for people to solve problems. However, many men and women who are lost in the "grave" of marriage tend to go astray in the face of seemingly endless emotional conflicts, which leads to cracks in marriage, escalation of conflicts, and separation
Indian poet Tagore said: "Love is the alias of understanding." Carefully experience this sentence. A few simple words tell the essence of love. Marriage is the ultimate destination and sublimation of love. Since love is the alias of understanding, then marriage should be the paradise of understanding. All contradictions will lose meaning in a good marriage. We all know that there is no problem-free marriage, but if the male and female masters can pull out the problems in the marriage in time and solve them excellently, then such marriage is happy and really sublimates love.
The following are some ways to eliminate conflicts in marriage summarized by the editor:
(1) Be tolerant and understanding of each other's "poor". In daily life, both sides should have a deep understanding of each other's personality, and at least understand his career and interests. If one party is dedicated to his or her career and slovenly, we should act as a strong backing for him or her based on tolerance. If the other party's level is poor, we should also be willing to help the other party and improve his or her level.
(2) Smart people are good at resolving conflicts. Heterogeneity between husband and wife is a very common thing in marriage, and it is not surprising that contradictions arise, but we should know how to adjust skillfully to achieve complementary effects. Many couples have different interests and values, but they still have a happy marriage, which is the best way to resolve conflicts.
(3) We should actively "prevent" and "eliminate". In marriage, taking the initiative to prevent and eliminate conflicts is a magic weapon for a happy and harmonious family. Among them, the common methods are: check your own shortcomings, look at your strengths, communicate and exchange more, and take the initiative to win understanding; Pay attention to the other party and consider things for them; The two sides should be free from rancor and full of love in each other's hearts.
(4) The feasible measures to prevent the intensification of conflicts:
Humor - This method is a necessary way for couples to make conflicts, and is one of the first methods to deal with each other's anger.
Silence - After a dispute, one party can remain silent for a while, and then patiently communicate after the other party is calm.
Avoidance - In family conflicts, it is often not the conflict between husband and wife, but the friction between one party and other members of the family. At this time, the other party needs to take an evasive attitude, and then solve the problem after the matter, so as to avoid the complication of the conflict.
Transfer - "transfer" is regarded as another manifestation of the best policy. When the other party is angry, the other party should immediately and rationally shift. This is not to avoid the problem, but a way to solve the problem.
In this way, from the perspective of dialectics, in fact, the nature of the contradictions in marriage is the same as other contradictions in society. Contradictions are inherent in all things, and they are not transferred by people's subjective will. Therefore, both parties in marriage should remember: "Proactively recognizing, exposing and resolving conflicts in marriage is always the magic weapon of love, and fear, avoiding and covering up conflicts in marriage will only backfire."
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
