Why should it be emphasized that couples must speak well? Good communication is the foundation for maintaining a happy marriage. So it's best to remember these points. Love well, love well, speak well. Marriage is a battle of constant adjustment. No matter how high a salary, education, or insight two people have, it is not as important to speak well. "Like is a joy at first sight, but love is a joy that lasts a long time.". Speak well, not only will our love spring breeze ten miles, but also is the greatest honor in a marriage.
Turning over the past is an invisible killer of marriage
A girl asked, "How can I skillfully settle old scores with my boyfriend?"? Among them, the highest praise answer is: Cousin also said that he was most afraid of his sister-in-law mentioning the matter of Chen Zhima's rotten millet again. "He went to buy salt, and my cousin saw that she had bought it wrong: How many times have I told you to add iodized salt? Every time, you can buy it wrong!"! "And last time, when I asked you to charge my phone bill, you could have charged the wrong number... He forgot to take the garbage bag downstairs, and my cousin said, 'What's the matter with you?'"? Last time, too, you forgot to lift the toilet seat. The seat cushion smells. One day, he stopped by to take a female colleague home and reported to his cousin in advance. As a result, every time a company party, my cousin always has to knock around: Is there a female colleague? He was so frightened that he never dared to ride his colleagues along the wind again.
"My cousin said that as soon as he heard his sister-in-law turn over the old accounts, his entire body bristled with sweat.". After a long time, my cousin automatically created a barrier, pretending not to hear my cousin's words, and still won't change it next time. "When my cousin gets angry, she nags even harder: She can't do any small things well. No wonder Lao Wang has been promoted to project manager, and you're still hanging around here.". Cousin naturally couldn't listen to such words, and the two began a new round of arguments.
In fact, we are also very helpless, and no one likes to keep turning over old scores. Many times, it is also because the lover does not have a long memory that we have to say it again and again. However, turning over old accounts cannot solve the problem. If you are not careful, you will touch the other party's bottom line and push him further and further. Over time, turning over old accounts can slowly become an invisible killer of marriage. After all, everyone doesn't want to be peeled off layer by layer like an onion, showing off their most embarrassing parts, even in front of the closest person.
It's okay to argue, don't speak up
There is a saying in the movie "Ten Thousand Sentences Top One Sentence": When in love, they have endless words to say; After getting married, they had endless fights. Even when a loving couple quarrels, there are 100 times they want to divorce and 50 times they want to kill each other. "Because those words that speak freely, really like sharp blades, can hurt the person you love most.". Huang Guolun, a famous Taiwanese music producer, was so angry with his wife that he ran away from home. Huang Guolun and Kou Naixin are both tough people. When two people collide, it's like leaning on the sky and bumping into a dragon slaying sword. Neither of them will admit defeat.
"Once in a fight, Kou Naixin was furious, and some cruel words came out without thinking: Huang Guolun, what do you think is worthy of me, Kou Naixin? Do you know that you were divorced, you're second-hand, and you don't deserve me?". "Huang Guolun didn't answer back. After packing his luggage, he walked to the door and said, 'Naoxin, did you know that some things can't be said?'"
Love is both an armor and a weakness for us. They can say the most beautiful love words, but also poke pain in our deepest wounds buried in our hearts. Some people who speak freely may relieve their momentary anger, but they pierce the hearts of their loved ones like nails. The harm caused is not just present, it runs through the years, day and month. After years, the wounds remain prominent, and even the deepest feelings will gradually be corroded and festered. However, entering a marriage means accepting the first half of a loved one's life. Along with his family, experiences, and everything else, he packed it all up. We should become each other's shield to face the storms and frost of the rest of our lives together.
Love well, love well, speak well
Will not speak well, will polish our love day after day; The habit of turning over old accounts can lead to the gradual disappearance of loved ones; Hard words that can't help but be uttered during a fight can make marriage a complete mess. Slowly, these "unpleasant" words will evolve into verbal violence, which is the beginning of a broken marriage. "We used to learn to speak in a few months, but now we need to spend our entire lives learning to shut up.". The gentleness towards our loved ones is the greatest kindness towards ourselves.
"If you don't speak well, you're slowly polishing your love."
The Zixia Fairy in the Western Journey said, "My crush is a hero of the earth. One day, he will come to marry me in a golden armor and a colorful auspicious cloud.". But I guessed the beginning, but I didn't guess the ending.
Little A and her sister both found their "heroes of the earth" in their hearts. They married at the same time and smiled sweetly at the ceremony. However, the beginning of happiness is so similar, but the end of love is different. The two sisters live in the same city. When they returned to their parents' house during the Spring Festival, they knew that their father liked to eat crabs, so they specially asked someone to bring a box with them. Halfway through the car, want to check if the crab is being held? As soon as I opened the trunk, I found nothing. My sister suddenly remembered, "It's broken. I left it at the garage door and forgot to install it.". My sister is very self accusing and has been blaming herself for being careless.
Little A's husband took the responsibility on himself: Sister, it's none of your business. "I'm sorry I didn't check it. Why don't we go back and get it now?". Xiao A also continued, "Yes, sister, don't worry about it. We all forgot to check it again at that time.". But now it's getting dark when we get back. Let's go first and bring more to our dad next time. "Little A and his wife thought it was nothing, but their brother-in-law exploded and said, 'You always lose things, you can't do any small things well.'". I've all agreed with Dad to bring crabs home. How can I explain it to him? "It's not easy to buy a live one, so let's go back and see if the crabs are dead... Along the way, my brother-in-law was reluctant to forgive me, and when I arrived at Little A's parents' house, I said, 'Dad, I wanted you to have a taste, but she just forgot to pretend. You said it's not annoying.'". "My sister blushed and lost face at her mother's house.".
In fact, my brother-in-law is not mean, but he has a pair of hurtful "sharp teeth". Many times, he also wants to express his concern for his sister, but he is always used to saying it in a critical tone: "You have a cold, let you be blind and wear so little.". Why are you so stupid? This should be done like this. However, those love words that should have been gentle gradually changed their taste because they did not speak well. Over the past three years, Xiao A and her husband have had a business relationship, and their lives have become more and more satisfactory. "My sister couldn't stand the stab in her brother-in-law's words, and in order to avoid the flames of war, she proposed a temporary separation.". Language has a temperature, gentle words can make one feel like a spring breeze, while some words can make one feel like falling into the cold winter. Can't speak well, is slowly polishing our love.