According to marriage experts, remarriers generally have lower levels of family satisfaction and happiness than first marriages. There are social, economic, cultural and other reasons, but it is mainly related to the morbid psychology of remarriers. Therefore, marriage experts point out that if remarriers want to have a harmonious family and a happy life, they must abandon the following pathological psychology.
First, selfishness is an important reason for the tension in the relationship between remarried couples, mainly manifested in the desire to control both parties in terms of economy and property. If both parties have children, occasionally accuse the other party's children of favoring their own children. This desire to control money and favor one's own children can easily create hostility between the spouses and destabilize the marriage.
Secondly, comparative psychology always likes to compare your current spouse with your previous spouse. In comparison, it is often felt that the former is better than the current one. This is often the trigger for many family conflicts.
Third, some people (especially women) have a strong sense of inferiority complex, which is heavily influenced by feudal ideology. They believe that divorce is an ignoble matter and feel deeply inferiority complex. As a result, after remarriage, they have insufficient confidence in life, lack of energy, and even do not want to socialize with others. They stay at home all day long, lose many friends, and are prone to diseases such as depression.
Fourth, jealousy is a psychological phenomenon commonly seen in both parties who remarry, especially in men. Holding a grudge against your spouse's previous marriage history and revealing it in many aspects of life from time to time, seriously harming their self-esteem.
Fifth, nostalgia is commonly seen in couples who have good feelings after their first marriage. When their ex husband or wife dies after an accident or illness, their deep feelings cannot fade away with the passage of time. Therefore, after remarriage, this nostalgia often manifests itself, which can easily cause dissatisfaction from the other party.