After breaking up and divorce, investigate and calm down to think about what your problems are. Really, the first point is that men cannot be spoiled. No man can withstand being spoiled, and my own results are a living example. During divorce, many people complain about their husband and mistress, saying that they are irresponsible and not serious. In fact, in sexual relationships, it is only now that I have realized that I have made many mistakes. Here are some reflections on my husband's family as a woman after his infidelity.
1、 A woman who cares too much about her family is not an advantage. The family belongs to two people and should be maintained and built together
Two couples have children, and many women want to do things for men and children, but over time, the responsibility for the family falls entirely on one person. Men feel that everything is normal like this. If one day you want a man to do something for your family, it will cause resentment.
Reflection: It's about sharing family responsibilities and gradually shifting the focus to men. Just help yourself, don't have to support yourself, and end up half tired and not pleasing. Household chores are also a part of the burden, otherwise I would really think that household chores are not tiring. This is the most important point in my reflection on the family as a woman.
2、 Being proficient in financial management is very important for women. They should have the power to control the economy and be vigilant
In the past, I used to hear men say that their wages were not enough for themselves, so they didn't want a man to give them a penny. In the end, men realized that they wouldn't have to raise their children anymore because they didn't see this family using too little money. Even in times of crisis, they could borrow money without a man, and of course, they didn't need a man to repay the money. Anyway, someone in the family gave money, and their own money was just enough to please the mistress.
Reflection: Even if a man has less money, he must use it wisely. Although he pays less than he takes away, there must be a clear destination. Otherwise, if a woman works hard to save money and support her family, other women over there will spend all their money on you. And in terms of economy, it is inevitable to take precautions, as private money is always available.
3、 Children should be brought together by husband and wife, and it is not advisable for a good wife and a good woman in marriage to do so
Most good women always take care of their children's clothing, food, housing, transportation, and studies, as well as their specialties such as tutoring. Dads spend a lot of time playing the sign of work and socializing, feeling bored and thinking that no one cares at home, so they go outside to find warmth.
Reflection: Don't forget that men are the fathers of children, it's natural to do something for them. It's better for men to spend more time with their children than with other women.
4、 You must be healthy and beautiful yourself
This is the fundamental point in women's reflections on their families: the body is the foundation of everything, otherwise you wouldn't even have the strength to hate them. You must cherish your body and use a man's words, "Take care of yourself. If you're sick, I won't care about you." When I first heard this, I was very angry. Later, I thought it was reasonable that if you don't love yourself, how can someone love you.
Reflection: Firstly, take good care of your body, prioritize health, and secondly, dress yourself well. If you are beautiful, your mood will naturally improve.
If you understand the above reflections on women's family, you will know how important these are. For me, it was only after a divorce that I realized these truths. Perhaps even without a divorce, I am still being a distant yellow faced woman. But in my heart, I feel that no one helps or understands.