Post Date December, 02 2023
Fighting is a manifestation of conflicts between people, and in marriage, fighting is inevitable. Many couples feel that a quarrel is bad and can affect their feelings, which is not correct. Everything has a dual nature, and so does a quarrel. Occasional minor frictions can be beneficial to marriage.
Occasional quarrels can increase the spice of marriage and activate it. To some extent, marital quarrels are also a psychological need.
The Benefits of Couple Fighting
1. Moderate venting of negative emotions is beneficial to physical health. Couples who enter middle age have relatively large emotional fluctuations, and some people who enter menopause are more likely to become angry. In life, some small frictions may cause conflicts between couples, and "choking" and sulking situations may also occur frequently.
Having "qi" that doesn't erupt can hurt your body, and if you don't untangle the bumps in your heart, it can easily lead to feelings of resentment. These negative emotions have an impact on your body and emotions. Therefore, vent your "resentment" and your mood will be relaxed. Of course, couples who have lived together for many years have a deep understanding of each other. Small frictions do not shake feelings. Proper quarrels can instead become a good way to vent their turbid qi and empty their mood.
2. Couple quarrels promote feelings. As the saying goes, "Fight at the head of the bed and make peace at the end of the bed." A quarrel between a husband and wife is not an encounter between enemies. No matter how big the matter, it will calm down and make up as before. In the process of arguing, men are mostly the tolerant party, while women are the cathartic ones. Even if she makes any more noise, she often ends up crying bitterly.
Seeing a woman's tears, few men have a heart of stone. Even if the other person is wrong, they should "bow their heads and plead guilty" and "apologize.". As a result, women will feel the love of men and know that the other party is tolerant of themselves. This sweet and warm feeling will make women moved and introspective, and the conflicts will disappear. The feelings between the two parties will also deepen.
3. "Find out and fill in the gaps". "When there is no wind, there is no wave. A couple's quarrel must be due to the accumulation of conflicts at ordinary times. The shortcomings of the other party have reached the point of" unbearable. ". Once there is a quarrel, it is natural to heartily criticize the other party's faults. Loyal words are harsh to the ear. When arguing, everyone will find these words unbearable. However, after a calm consideration, many of them are their own shortcomings and shortcomings.
Therefore, couples often find their own shortcomings during quarrels, and there will be some changes afterwards. Marriage life needs this progress, and quarreling is the best way to "detect and fill in gaps.".
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
