My wife's family's relief, I successfully started a business and had a million dollar worth, but her behavior made me want a divorce

"I was born in a rural area and my living conditions are not superior. I am the eldest in my family, and I have a younger brother below me.". Due to my family background, my personality is very lonely and I have a strong self-esteem. I study hard and hope that one day I can rely on my power to change myself. When I was in my senior year, I talked about a girlfriend, a girl from the city with extraordinary temperament. Due to the disparity in family circumstances, I dare not expect our future.

After graduation, it's time to go our separate ways. I want to go to Shenzhen for development. There are many opportunities in first-tier cities. My girlfriend's hometown is Wuhan, and she is also an only child. Her parents want her to return to Wuhan for development after graduation. I knew that our fate had ended, so I proposed to break up, so I didn't have to worry about it. She refused and persuaded her parents to take me back to Wuhan. "I really don't want to be a man who eats soft food, but seeing my girlfriend crying like crazy makes me feel uncomfortable, so I agreed.".

This decision has changed my fate. My girlfriend's family is in business. After three years of working with his father in a career, I gained a lot of experience. Compared to the students who graduated from the same year, I did well. Naturally, my girlfriend and I got married, and she upgraded to be my wife. My career is in Wuhan, and naturally I stayed here. It's far from my home here, so it's difficult to meet my family. I vowed to buy my own house and pick up my parents to live in.

After three years of stable marriage, my career has been very successful, and my value has soared to over a million. Over the years, I rarely go home, just contact my family by phone. "With my savings over the past few years, I bought a three bedroom, one living room house and wanted to take over my parents to live in.". My younger brother is still in his third year of high school, and I want him to enter Wuhan University. In the future, I can also take care of him.

"I told my wife what I thought, but I didn't expect her reaction to me to be furious. She changed her virtuous demeanor and said with a sullen face, 'You don't have to deal with your family, otherwise they will drag you down in the future.'" I heard this with a chill, and she obviously despised my family. ". I glared at her angrily, and she realized she had gone too far and stopped speaking.

Some time ago, when my father was sixty years old, I bought a ticket to receive my parents for my birthday. I'm worried about the elderly's first trip. The company worked overtime, so I asked my wife to pick up the old man. She was reluctant, but did not refuse. When I got home and ate, my wife had a gloomy face, and my parents were sitting at the table, unable to put their shelves away.

What's more hateful is that after eating and washing dishes, my mother accidentally broke a bowl and cut her finger. First of all, my wife didn't comfort my mother, but rather loved her bowl. She nagged about where and where she bought the bowl, how expensive it was, and yelled at my mother. "I was so angry that I gave her a row, and she slammed the door and left.". The next day, my parents told my brother to book a ticket and board the train without telling me.

At that moment, I suddenly felt how unfilial I was as a son, and what could I do if I had money to make my parents suffer this injustice. My wife can't accept my family, how can I talk about happiness? I feel so frustrated in my heart that I really want to divorce. What should I do?

reply:

Your wife has lived a privileged and pampered life since childhood, and her wayward personality has already been shaped. "She is willing to take her heart and soul out of you because she loves you. For her, your parents only have a relationship because of your existence. Over the years, you have been working outside and paid little attention to your family. She and your family have no emotional communication, and they are more strangers.".

"When you suddenly consider taking over your parents, and you become a family of four from a world of two, she will definitely not be able to accept it psychologically. She feels that your parents will share your love for her, which also reflects her inability to love others and her extremely low quality.". "You talk about the situation, yell at her, and she slams the door away. It can be seen that your words do not threaten her at all. In her heart, you have today because of her, so she not only cares what you will do to her.".

Suggest changing your communication style. Although she gave you the opportunity, you earned success through your own efforts. It is your duty and responsibility to support your parents if your family does not speak two languages. She cannot let you give up supporting your parents because of her personal feelings. Teaching her to respect you and your family is an explanation of your feelings. If you have been so indifferent and quarrelling, your feelings will become weaker and weaker, and in the end, there is only one way to go: divorce.