Post Date December, 03 2023
Last year, my wife lived together with other men for a year, and I stayed with her every weekend, and I was good to her, so good that everyone envied her. She also said that I was very good, and she had the final say in everything. As long as it is her words, I will not listen. She can have a rest all day long without working. I do all the housework on her behalf. She has been married for 15 years, and she has not cooked more than ten times. Sometimes she would not like to wash clothes, but also called me to wash them.
I am very confused now. What is the purpose of my previous efforts? What should I do? I can't part with her, and I can't let her betray me go. I spend every day in pain. After I found out about her, she assured me that there was no next time. She and I were very conservative people. The first time she was forced by that person, who said that she would do anything for her.
When they were together, the man asked her to divorce or kill me, but she didn't agree. The man also made her pregnant. The man had long wanted to have a showdown with me, because she didn't allow it. That person is a bachelor, three years younger than her, and I have always treated that person as a real friend.
She was also a friend with that person before. When she was with him, she wanted to die because of conflicts. Now her hand is disabled. Now I want to revenge that person very much. I fell ill because of this, my body is getting worse and worse, and I never slept well. When that man was desperate, we also accepted him.
My wife now very much wants to give up that person's hand, and that person has run away without trace. As long as I talk about them, my wife will say that we should divorce separately. I have been sticking to it all the time. I don't know what to do now? Is it worth sticking to?
She is also very tired and sad every day. Everyone in her family blamed and scolded her, and everyone felt incredible. She and I have a son and a daughter, a house and a car, and enough money. We all worked together from scratch. She and I grew up together as children.
[Reply]
When we touch on the topic of extramarital affairs, people are always filled with emotion and indignation. Sometimes we can't help asking, what is the matter with modern people? They are so arrogant, don't cherish their marriage, and play with their feelings? Perhaps, the variety of social life and the variety of the emotional world at present require each of us to seriously reflect on it.
According to what you said, you are not short of food and clothing, you have a house and a car, you are not short of money, and you have a pair of children. The family should live happily together. That is perfect! You are so kind to your wife. She is completely centered on her. She can be said to be treated well at home. It is reasonable to say that your wife should be contented and don't want it. But she just put her good life aside and went to talk nonsense with other men, and lived with others outside for a year. For this reason, you can't think of it. You feel that you have paid so much for her, and in the end, you will get disloyalty and betrayal. Therefore, you are in great pain.
As a man, I understand your painful mood and can feel your situation. However, in the face of cruel reality, in addition to suffering and tangled contradictions, you need to make a thorough reflection: do you really know your own woman? Do you really know how to manage your own marriage? Is there really no problem between you? Including the sexual life between husband and wife, is it harmonious enough?
After reflection, if you really have nothing to review, your wife is completely spoiled and spoiled by you. She is an indisputable bad woman. She is mixed with a friend of the opposite sex. To be precise, it is your husband and wife who are kind to her. It is really raising a tiger for the sake of danger. What you save is a real white eyed wolf. I think it's your carelessness in making friends and your lack of vigilance against others that can make such things happen.
Over the years, you may have been so good to your wife that you were too good. Not only did you not need her to do anything, but also you were obedient to her, which lowered her personality. As a result, she has no longer put your kindness in the eyes of her, and has taken it as a kind of responsibility. She gradually forgot her due responsibilities as a wife in this marriage and as a woman, and then began to indulge herself and let herself fall into the temptation of extramarital affairs, Can you say that you are not responsible?
Now things are clear. If your wife has begun to wake up in this abnormal relationship and regained herself, and is willing to express complete repentance in her guilt, and you also insist on accepting her after the event, and can't let her go in your heart, then it is not impossible to repair your relationship. The only thing to do is to forget the past, face the present and manage the future with strong courage. If you are really unhappy and can't get over this hurdle, don't pretend to force yourself, otherwise, you will suffer from your own pain and the other side will suffer. Your wife's current situation looks really pathetic, but when you think about it, it's also very hateful. No, she has to bear the bitter fruit she planted herself, and she needs to pay the price and cost to make any mistake, right?
Give yourself some time to think about it and see if you can challenge your inner strength.
