Sexual Health
My parents are very dissatisfied with my boyfriend's family situation. When he learned about it, he said something that moved me to shame
I am 26 years old this year, and my boyfriend is 29 years old. We have been together for two years, and we used to work in the same company. My boyfriend has a bit of hair loss now, and it is hereditary. His mother was hospitalized with cerebral hemorrhage years ago. Of course, she has been discharged now. His father was diagnosed with liver disease a few years ago and his health was not very good.
We are planning to get married now, but my parents are particularly dissatisfied with their boyfriend's family situation and their physical condition. My parents have always told me that if you marry, in the future, if you choose not to do well, you will suffer a lot, a lot, and so on.
After I implicitly shared my mother's opinions with my boyfriend, he just started to bow his head and remain silent. Later, she came over and hugged me tightly and said, 'Dear, I love you!'! But I won't make you feel embarrassed. I will respect the opinions of you and your family. My parents are indeed in poor health, and I have my own hair loss problem. I also know that I may not be worthy of you, but my love for you comes from the bottom of my heart. Regardless, I am the one who loves you the most in the world. Even if we can't get together, it's okay. I just hope you can be happy and happy.
After listening to my boyfriend's words, I really don't have a feeling in my heart. I am both moved and ashamed. In fact, I also have feelings for him. After all, we have been together for two years, and we have been living together for almost a year. If the two of us say goodbye and break up, how could it be so easy. So, Brother Shan, I am particularly hesitant now, feeling like I don't know what to do? Please help me.
reply:
Since you are ready to discuss marriage, how can you explain your boyfriend's family situation to your parents? Have you been hiding your parents' love story from each other for the past two years? I'm not sure if it's your parents who are not satisfied with your boyfriend, or if you're feeling a bit hesitant now and using your parents as scapegoats to give yourself a reason to want to leave? I hope everything you say is true.
Love is a matter for two people, while marriage is a matter for two families. In fact, it is normal for your parents to have their own opinions on your boyfriend's family situation, or to show dissatisfaction. The key is whether you have planned to be with him or not, and I think you are not so determined yourself. If you haven't planned to achieve success with the other person since the beginning, why should you spend so much time with them and still cohabit with them? Do you want to delay yourself or others?
Think about it carefully, can you be your own master in this relationship? If your marriage cannot be separated from your parents, then you need to quickly cut through the chaos and solve it as soon as possible. Don't drag the mud and water until the end, as the harm to each other may be greater.
Now, no matter how much this man loves you, it doesn't seem to be the most important thing. What matters is whether you truly love each other and whether you can persuade your parents to accept their entire family conditions? If you have the courage and confidence to establish your firmness, then you can choose to be with your boyfriend. If you feel like you have no bottom, then don't just be moved. No matter how well your boyfriend says and does, but you can't be your own boss and haven't fully planned to enter this marriage. So, it's better to choose the reliable option of short-term pain rather than long-term pain.
That's it, good luck to you.