My husband makes at least 16 phone calls to the mistress every month, which makes me feel heartbroken

Due to my child being separated from my husband for a long time, my family has asked me to go to the city where he works. So I sold my jewelry and came to his city to rent a house for three months, hoping to ease my feelings. In August, I discovered an abnormality and checked his phone records. I found that they can make more than thirty phone calls a month, each lasting more than an hour. So I took his phone and sent a message to the closely connected number, saying 'I miss you'. The number quickly replied, 'I also miss you very much.'.

At night, I invited my husband to drink, and he asked me why I suddenly wanted to drink? I asked him about the phone call, and he told me that he was just talking about something and there was no ambiguity. At least 16 phone calls a month, I don't know what's important. He said he won't contact me anymore, and I can't believe him anymore. I feel heartbroken for this. We went to the lawyer's office to sign a divorce agreement, and I don't want him to be deceived in such an endless world. But the next day, the third mother called and said she wanted to tell me a story. If I have anything to say, just tell me the story. She said that my divorce has nothing to do with her daughter, and that I cannot control men myself and cannot blame others. I threw the phone to my husband and he said he wouldn't contact me anymore and hung up.

I think the third child is exactly like her mother. She is a mother and a child without proper parenting etiquette. I called her husband and told him the whole story. I don't understand why he's not angry. Maybe this kind of thing is always happening, he's used to it. He called my husband, and the first sentence actually said, 'How have you been lately? Have you contacted my wife?'? It's very simple, there aren't too many languages.

Now my husband says that he contacted Xiao San to live a better life. He said there were repeated attempts, but not repeated attempts. I had forgiven him before and gave him one last chance. I've had enough of cheating when I sign a divorce agreement, but when I need to apply for documents, he says the child is pitiful and asks me to think again. He said that their newly applied WeChat, Momo, and QQ for chatting are no longer used, and my daughter is indeed cute and cute. When I cry, she gently holds me and tells me, 'It's okay, Mom.'.

Now I want to sue, but if I go to court, will it cause significant psychological harm to the child? I don't know what to do? Suing for divorce, I am not willing to let my efforts go unrequited, leaving me with endless troubles; But without a divorce, I don't want to face a man who doesn't take money to support his family and has an affair.

I don't know what to do?

reply:

Based on your confidences, the mistress you contacted with your husband should be your acquaintance or good friend or sister. It is obvious that your husband does not admit to his infidelity and infidelity because you did not catch them in bed, but in fact, they are the only ones who know if they have any improper dealings. At least your husband is already mentally cheating.

However, when faced with your initiative to propose a divorce, your husband did not accept it, indicating that he still cares about you and the family, and he does not want to end up in a divorce situation. That is to say, his dealings with that third party were only for spiritual comfort, not out of seriousness; Or perhaps the relationship is not yet mature enough and the final decision has not been made yet.

As for you, when facing this problem, you also have contradictions and don't know where to go. When making choices, it's not wrong to worry about your child, but don't use them as excuses. You need to carefully examine your current marriage and see if there is any value in continuing. If a marriage is already on the brink of death and belongs entirely to the realm of nominal existence, then maintaining a seemingly non-existent form is meaningless and even more detrimental to the growth of children. It is better to cut through the chaos quickly and release oneself as soon as possible. If you find this marriage tasteless and regretful, and the other party shows genuine signs of repentance, and it is difficult for you to make up your mind, then you can give the other party a chance, and also give yourself a chance.

Where to go and where to follow, it's better to ask your own heart and weigh it rationally. In short, try to make a relatively objective and correct choice, and don't let yourself regret or regret your decision in the future.