Q:
Teacher, what should I do? I found out that my husband is in contact with that woman again. He became increasingly cunning, and even applied for another WeChat account, which only added a third person.
But that day he forgot to switch, so I discovered it. Needless to say, he was desperate and angry. The feeling of pouring cold water on his head and feet made me unable to learn to calm down. I confronted him and he said, 'Believe me, my wife, you haven't done anything, things are definitely not what you think.'.
I found out before that they were flirting, and the third person sent him many suggestive words, which meant as much seduction as possible. As a woman, I blushed when I saw her, but when I caught her husband, I deleted them, so I believed his statement: it was just online chatting, and even if the other person was a ghost, he wouldn't take it seriously.
Men need to have fun, and I'm not a wooden person either! Ask yourself, if he has any requirements, I will cooperate. After eight years of marriage and the two years of previous love, even if it's just a feeling of touching the back of my hand, I won't casually chat with a man online! Why can't he just do it!
Moreover, looking at the conversation between him and that woman, I feel that things are not simple. The two must have met before, and it is very likely that they have come into contact. There is an extraordinary relationship, and that woman has already spoken to my husband in a tone of "I cannot leave you every day, I miss you every moment, and I can't see you. Do you know how difficult it is for me to endure. And she speaks in a voice, teacher. It's terrifying. She even speaks such disgusting words in a coquettish voice, and my husband can't bear to delete them!
I took photos with my phone, but most of them were voiceovers, and even taking photos was useless. I sorted it out and the text has been given to you, teacher. I sincerely ask for help. I feel like if this continues, my husband will be completely captured by this woman's sweet words! Every article posted by my third friend's circle, my husband likes me on the small account. He now keeps his phone close to me and no longer allows me to touch it. Additionally, he is very impatient to talk to me about this matter again. What should I do, teacher?
I don't know if it's because we've been married for so many years and haven't had children yet. He was angry with me and went out to look for them. It was a decision of two people who said they didn't want to have children so early! I found out that there are historical browsing records on my computer at home, and there are actually browsing records on my mother and baby website. I'm a bit nervous, isn't it that girl who is pregnant? Teacher, what should I do now?
Answer:
From the current situation, it can be seen that the husband has a significant relationship with a third party, and there are some common hidden parts. To what extent they have developed, it is recommended that you no longer explore through yourself - he has become wary of your repeated checking of your phone, and further prying will cause him to dislike it and more likely encourage him to not save records, which is detrimental to you and even more detrimental to repairing your relationship.
Couples cannot stand in a hostile position. Even if you have doubts about whether to forgive your husband and how to govern the mistress, you cannot directly point the finger of anger and resentment at your husband. The third party can be persuaded to retreat or separated. After that, you and him need to continue living. The harder the situation becomes, the more difficult it will be for emotional healing in the future.
If you can't learn to calm down, you should also know how to restrain yourself. If you feel that your emotions are about to lose control, contact our teacher as soon as possible and have a conversation with them. You will gradually calm down.