Post Date December, 02 2023
My husband took my lover home, and when I was in front of him in our double bed, making me sleep on the sofa in anger, I had plans for a divorce.
Because there are many issues involved in marriage, I first went back to my mother's house to stay for a period of time. At the beginning, my husband ignored me and saw that I did not actively seek peace, so he showed too much concern for me.
When I get along with my husband as a 'friend', I actually feel that he is still a good person. However, whenever he mentions asking me to come back home and start over with him, I inexplicably get angry because I can be certain that I no longer have any love for him, stemming from my heartfelt coldness.
When my husband and I met, I was only eighteen years old. At that time, we were working in the same company. Although he did not actively express his love for me, he gave me meticulous care in life. Therefore, on my birthday, I voluntarily proposed to be my boyfriend. He nodded and agreed.
During his relationship, he dumped me fiercely for a wealthy woman. At that time, I might not have had a deep emotional connection, so breaking up didn't make me feel very bad. My husband was kicked by a wealthy woman less than a month after he fell in love with her, so he came back to find me.
The reason why I reintroduced him is because we had sex before, and I gave him for the first time in my life. During his relationship with a wealthy woman, I also slept with other men, but couldn't find the desired sexual pleasure. Therefore, the greedy husband's bed skills are the main reason why I reintroduced him.
Later, we got married, and as the marriage progressed and I grew older, I no longer had any requirements for my appearance. As a result, I became an undisputed foodie, and as a result, I grew fatter and my husband became colder towards me.
In the end, he cheated several times, and every time he got divorced, he never agreed. Due to his relatively covert infidelity, I also adopted a strategy of not seeing and not getting upset. Although I was sad, it didn't make me feel like getting divorced.
Until he brought his current lover home, when my face was lingering and he asked me to join, I struggled on the sofa all night. The next day, I brought some clothes back to my mother's house.
During this period, I thought a lot and tried to persuade myself not to worry too much, but in the end, I gave my own suggestion that there was no need to continue this marriage.
Now, in the face of my husband's great hospitality and my son's crying and pleading, I seem to want to return to marriage. Just, I don't know if my husband can turn over when I return to the besieged city.
Reply:
There is an emotional phenomenon called: always wanting to have after losing.
There is an emotional phenomenon called 'don't care anymore, you're not even farting'.
After your husband staged an infidelity that exceeded your tolerance limit, you became disheartened. In fact, you also returned to your mother's house with a divorce mentality and ignored your husband's whereabouts during this period.
I want to say that if you don't go back to your mother's house and start arguing with your husband shamelessly, he may not calmly think about his mistakes in marriage and will do whatever he wants based on your love for him.
What your husband didn't expect was that you became indifferent to him, causing him to face a crisis of losing you. In the end, he was afraid of losing you, so he shamelessly courted you.
Explanation: During the period of being neglected by you, your husband has figured out the difference between his wife and mistress, as well as who is more important. Otherwise, he would not apologize or please in a courteous manner.
Suggestion: Stay at your mother's house for another month, and after that, find a suitable step and return home.
After returning home, continue to remain indifferent to him for a month, and see if he has corrected his attitude to decide whether to continue with him or choose a divorce.
With the cruelest indifference, let him experience the importance of your existence, only in this way can he truly have a long memory.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
