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My husband always remembers his ex-wife and spends the night behind my back, which I find difficult to accept
My husband is a second marriage, and we are in free love. He pursues me. I am twenty-six years old this year, and he is seven years older than me. He exudes a mature male temperament that fascinates me. We have been married for a year and our relationship has been maintained well, but there is one thing I cannot accept, which is that his relationship with his ex-wife is too close.
I admit they were not divorced when I appeared, but their marriage was already in name only, and the delay in divorce was due to the issue of child custody. They have a daughter, five years old, sensible and lovely. Her husband is unwilling to let go, and his wife is in the same mood.
They entangled for a year, and ultimately the court awarded the child to their ex-wife. The reason for this is that my husband refused to disclose, and I don't want to know. After all, the child has no blood relationship with me. If I want to have that child, I still have to take on the role of stepmother. Stepmother is difficult, and I don't want to be talked about.
After the divorce, we got married openly. After marriage, he would often visit his daughter. When we first got married, he cared about my feelings very much. Every time he went to his ex-wife's place, he always reported to me in advance, making me feel more comfortable. I don't know when his whereabouts have become very unusual and I can't fathom them. At first, I thought it was because he was too concerned about his children and went too many times, afraid that I might say something about him, so I kept my travel confidential. I worked hard to do ideological work for myself, but I didn't know he was getting too extreme and sometimes he just slept at his ex-wife's house.
They are getting more and more excessive. In his husband's phone records, there are almost daily calls from his ex-wife, and I am his wife. He seems to have no idea about this. A while ago, he went to his ex-wife's house again and said that his child missed him, so he didn't go back with the child at night. I got angry and argued with him to find out his identity. We are husband and wife. He said I don't have the authority to control him from going to see the children. He completely misunderstood my meaning, and I explained that I should distance myself from my ex wife. He scolded me for making trouble for no reason.
I don't think he even takes me seriously. Since you have a relationship, why do you still want to marry me? I really want to leave living with him in such a grievance. I went back to my mother's house in anger, only to find out that I was pregnant. I told him the news and he behaved very calmly, not surprised at all. I was so angry that I shed tears, and he still went his own way. May I ask what I should do?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
Hello, I understand your feelings. Some couples may have reached the end of their marriage, but the presence of children creates countless connections that cannot be extinguished. Your husband has stayed overnight with his ex-wife multiple times, which is indeed not appropriate. Your reaction is also normal, and no woman can tolerate her husband staying overnight with another woman. Now your nerves are tense, always worried that they will break the mirror and reunite. You cry, you make trouble, you suspect him, which will directly increase his aversion to you, and even say that you are making trouble for no reason.
He is your husband, you should trust him, and you should also have confidence in marriage. Husband's help to his ex-wife may only be in life, but if you keep holding on, it may make him miss his ex-wife's good deeds. In the end, if an old relationship reignites, you will want to cry without tears. Don't let your relationship go into crisis. It is recommended that you calmly talk to your husband, and if necessary, lend a helping hand to his ex-wife. This will show your husband your generosity, and your relationship will also be heated up. Remember not to treat your husband in a threatening manner, as it will only worsen.