I have been talking to my boyfriend for two and a half years, and I cherish it for the first time. GG is a spoiled child who grew up in Beijing and has been working for 3 years. She also has an older sister, who is 12 years older than him and has an older father who takes care of everything in the family (except cooking) and works outside.
My mother grew up in a hutong in Beijing and doted on this young son very much. As a result, at the age of 26, gg's life was not yet self-sufficient, immature, and indecisive. I was very worried about being with him, and I argued with him n times. gg decided to change his ways, but his parents urged us to get married.
Recently, my parents often whispered in my ear that they wanted to renovate the house. I thought it was wrong and asked my boyfriend for confirmation. He told me that his parents planned to renovate the house for us to build a new house, and then his parents moved to his sister's spare 40 square meter small house in the same community.
At that time, I accused myself of being suspicious and cautious, and made it clear that it was impossible for the elderly to be wronged. We could go to a small house. And I'm not in a hurry to get married. I want to wait for 2 or 3 years and save some money before we talk.
But two weeks ago, my boyfriend and sister asked us when we would get married and decorate our big house, and I was wondering, hasn't gg told our family about our plans yet? We can't live in his parents' house. A week ago, my dad suddenly said to me, 'You're okay. You've found someone from Beijing, and the other two are children from other places who have been struggling for a long time without a house.'.
I secretly exclaimed in my heart that it was not good. Sure enough, on the weekend evening, according to gg, his father asked him to talk to him behind closed doors about getting married, urging us to make a decision before I graduated. His sister and brother-in-law are good at planning the renovation of their house. They got married and lived with his parents. I was knocked unconscious by lightning, and it was a bolt from the blue!
Gg said he told his father that we would consider this in 2 or 3 years, but his father encouraged his sister to call him today to urge her to get married, saying it was for my own good, otherwise there would be no place to live after graduation. I was completely shocked by thunder!
Let's talk about the reasons why we can't live with our mother-in-law again:
1. My mother-in-law has particularly bad living habits. She never knocks on the door when she enters her son's house, which is also the case when I am here. Additionally, my mother-in-law only cooks at home, but Super not delicious and very unsanitary!!!
I can't help but remind everyone that she actually recycles the ribs that everyone has chewed and makes soup for us next time. She often uses some dirty leftover water to stir fry vegetables (including the blood water after pickling the raw meat...) and many other things that make people bleed. Perhaps she is frugal, but I really can't bear it. Although her family is not wealthy, it is not poor
2. My mother-in-law dotes on GG very much, and his self-reliance is very poor. His parents help him with everything, even washing his underwear. Moreover, GG is immature and lacks a sense of responsibility because he has been under too much protection for a long time. We have decided to strive for our own life and have agreed to move out and live on our own. My temper is not very good, and I will definitely not tolerate some things and argue in the future.
3. I am an only child, and my parents are still in the south, but I want them to come with me at least once a year to have a place to settle down. The relationship between me and my parents is relatively strong, and if it weren't for the sake of bf, I would go back to my hometown.
In summary, considering these issues is a headache, and I cannot tell my parents. When they opposed it, I insisted on getting along with gg, and I really don't know how to describe it.