Research has found that men's promiscuity is more a psychological issue. A person with a 'flower heart' may appear to be related to morality on the surface, but if we delve deeper into the reasons for their behavior, we will find that there is a certain correlation between their upbringing in the original ecological family, their parents' attitudes, emotions, and ways of behavior towards them. So, men's promiscuity is a disease that needs to be treated.
Men's promiscuity should be the biggest characteristic that women cannot accept the most. Why on earth do men have "flower hearts"? Is it an inherent vice? Research has found that men's promiscuity is more a psychological issue. A person with a 'flower heart' may appear to be related to morality on the surface, but if we delve deeper into the reasons for their behavior, we will find that there is a certain correlation between their upbringing in the original ecological family, their parents' attitudes, emotions, and ways of behavior towards them.
1. Desire to be noticed by everyone
In the practice of psychological counseling, it is often found that "tiger fathers" who do not understand parent-child education cultivate "dogs". Because the father is too excellent, he naturally has higher expectations for his son; It is precisely because he is too excellent that he generally does not easily praise his children. In this way, the child unfortunately lost their father in childhood - the objective evaluation of the most important person in the process of building their sense of self-worth, which makes the child's inner sense of self-worth low no matter how glamorous it may be in the eyes of outsiders.
People with low self-worth who find it difficult to achieve a sense of achievement through normal channels are likely to seek temporary satisfaction through alternative means. Like Ni Zhen's pursuit of women, something happened to attract people's attention to him.
2. Desire to conquer and protect
The natural instinct of men, due to the role of male hormones, is to desire to conquer others and protect the weak. If he is a weak person who is "protected" by women, then there must be a powerful force hidden in his subconscious that constantly strives to break free from the hands of the savior.
However, as one grows older and matures, as a man, one begins to crave being strong and resent the protection of others. Conquering new girls, being admired by young girls, gave him great psychological satisfaction of being a strong person.
3. Some 'flower hearts' are actually psychological illnesses
Psychologists have summarized the following reasons for the psychology of "flower heart" people: when they were still children, they did not receive the necessary protection, careful care, and selfless care. But being falsely loved in the name of 'love', such as control, possession, jealousy.
A. A flower heart person's heart is empty, like a magnetic bottomless black hole, constantly needing external things or things to fill, but always unable to fill it. It has nothing to do with a person's status, money, or reputation, but these external conditions will create more opportunities to constantly change people.
B. The person with a flower heart doesn't know what they really want? Lack of security and full of worries about the future.
C. Floral people lack confidence and self-esteem, as well as inner strength.
D. People who are promiscuous do not want to take responsibility for others and adopt evasive behavior. Continuously changing is another form of evasion.
E. Playful people always hope to receive more praise, respect, recognition, and affirmation.
F. Flower hearted people want everything, refuse to let go, and constantly pursue the so-called "better".
G. People who are promiscuous have not "weaned" psychologically, have not cut the "spiritual umbilical cord" with their parents, have not yet reached the age of psychological growth, and have become truly independent and mentally mature individuals.
H. People with flower hearts suffer from psychological disorders, and due to childhood trauma in their original ecological families, they have not received timely treatment. This is a psychological misconception often overlooked by parents and family members. These psychological traumas have always been accompanied by flower heart people, relying on this behavioral defense method to gain false confidence and dignity, walking helplessly and confusedly in the long river of life with an increasingly thick and hard metal mask.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)