Post Date December, 03 2023
Man: When breaking up, we must be straightforward!
I often hear such lines - "I don't blame him for breaking up, but I hate him for not saying it clearly!" Those who say this are often angry women who have just experienced inexplicable and silent breakup. They are not willing to admit the impact and trauma of the breakup itself, but secretly complain about the way the other party treats the breakup. It seems to say: I don't care about this person, let's split it; But he can't take me so seriously. He can't just slip away without speaking openly. This is disrespect for me!
At the end of her last relationship, Kay took this evasive and shrinking attitude. The daily call gradually changed to one call every three days, and then to one call every week. Appointments are even rarer, and the originally agreed travel is also cancelled on the pretext. The transition from lovers to passers-by only takes two thirds of the seasons.
But after that, the old girlfriend scolded him for his softness and cowardice in the common circle of friends, and all these things came to Kay's ears, which led him to introspect. It is indeed selfish to avoid face-to-face conflicts, but the bigger consideration at that time was that such a calm and return to zero natural ending is the most conducive to the dignity of children and world peace.
Unexpectedly, she hurt the girl. It turns out that women are such creatures who pursue a sense of ceremony. Not only Valentine's Day, Christmas, and all kinds of anniversaries, but also break-ups should also be spectacular. What is a silent breakup? It's a trample on the girl's heart! It is an irresponsible comment on a sincere and devoted relationship! Is there anything worse than this?!
In the autumn and spring, Kay began to fall in love again and was faced with breaking up. This time, even if it is heartbreaking, Kay will be a gentleman. So he made an appointment for a good restaurant, a good place, ordered a good wine, looked at his girlfriend's eyes, and said with special sincerity and sensibility: "You are a good girl, I am very happy when we are together, but we are not suitable for..." The following 800 words were omitted. Anyway, those gentleman lines that Kay had rehearsed many times in advance and made him feel a little complacent didn't even hear the girl's ears.
He was really struck by thunder. When the wine was just poured, the girl was still wondering whether she was going to propose. What I can't imagine is this feeling... Kay has not finished reading his lines. A glass of water has been poured on his face. Fortunately, it is not red wine. But the ice is also thrown on his forehead, which is very painful. The girl roared: "hypocrite, what should I do? If I want to break up, I will split it up and do this.
This is not true, that is not true - Kay is really confused: how can we achieve a calm and peaceful breakup? Let the feelings fade and fade, and they complain that you are not fair and aboveboard; After making a grand farewell, their mood changed into another one: they felt teased and insulted, and the man sitting opposite tried to keep dressed up, which was just like a crime.
Breaking up and peace are inherently difficult. Kay's efforts were roundabout. Goodbye also means that friends are an unreachable meeting, not an achievable goal. The person who was mentioned was wrong, and the person who was told was always angry inside and outside. But it's too hard to be tough.
