"Although love is easy, marriage is not easy, and we should cherish it." This is Ma Yili's attitude towards the article. The star's private life is also in everyone's eyes. In fact, the life of ordinary people is the same. Couple life is a life of happiness and hardship for two people. So both husband and wife should go and cherish it.
Don't expect to change your lover
If a person likes ballet and his spouse doesn't, it doesn't matter. Anyone who is reasonable can show tolerance for similar differences. But if you don't like each other's friends, or don't appreciate their sense of humor, especially don't agree with their values, then break up.
If the other party has personal habits that make you bored, it is likely to destroy your marriage in the future. Historical and cultural scholar Jacques Balzan found that the three minefields that test the relationship between men and women are punctuality, neatness and frugality. Balzan believes that no matter where you are in the spectrum, your spouse must be at the same point as you.
You will get what you see now after marriage. If you think that marriage will change your lover, you are wrong. Either be prepared to accept shortcomings or forget them. There is no doubt that in a long marriage, your spouse will change, but not in a way that you can predict or control.
It is absolutely important to really like your spouse. People in a happy marriage always say, "I married my best friend." In fact, a more appropriate description of a soul mate is, "Your closest friend, and you are sexually attracted to him (or her).".
Don't always talk about "money"
Many young people hope to become famous, rich or rich. There is nothing wrong with it. But if you are 40 years old, you love your work, have found a soul mate, and have lovely children, and realize that you may not become rich or famous in this life, then it is very important to mature and face the ambition of the young age.
I have seen a TV program about David Geffen, a famous American business giant and producer, and one of the scenes has been unforgettable to the editor. The camera sweeps over Gefen's private plane, which is decorated with rows of leather seats and sofas. He sits alone in the back row.
When people are in their 20s and 30s, they will feel a hundred claws scratching their hearts because they are worried that they will not succeed. This anxiety is one of the side effects of ambition. Fame and wealth can do some things, such as curing anxiety caused by ambition, but that's all.
Try to adapt yourself
More than 20 years ago, there was a film called "Love" about a weather announcer who was sent to Poncey, Pennsylvania, to report on Groundhog Day. He hated the task, despised the people and things there, and could not wait to return to Pittsburgh. But a snowstorm came and trapped him in Poncey. Every morning he woke up, it was Groundhog Day, and the day repeated day by day.
In order to get rid of the repetitive life, he has fallen and committed suicide in vain. Every day he wakes up is still Groundhog Day. He complained to his sweetheart, who suggested that he take the opportunity to improve himself. From then on, he tried to understand his sweetheart, understand the town where he lives, help others actively, learn new things, and finally embrace the beauty and usher in a new day.
A person who can only live one day can win a satisfactory life through his own efforts. What is more persuasive than this film?
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)