Since I got married, my vagina has been dry and there have been no secretions when I slept with my husband. I feel that my sexual desire is quite strong, and I put in as much effort as possible during my sexual intercourse, but the situation has not improved. My husband said I have a cold nature and I have nothing to say. Is vaginal discharge really the standard of sexual desire?
Based on the situation in your letter, you may have a female sexual arousal disorder (also known as sexual pleasure loss), which mainly refers to the slow generation of sexual excitement and delayed onset of impulses. Its clinical manifestations are: ① the patient still partially or completely fails to produce the vaginal lubrication and dilation response required for sexual excitement until the completion of sexual activity; ② Lack of subjective sensation of sexual excitement during sexual activity.
It is considered inappropriate to refer to female sexual dysfunction such as low libido, sexual arousal disorders, and sexual aversion as frigidity. Although their etiology and pathogenesis are somewhat related, they need to be distinguished. Low libido refers to a subjective desire for sexual activity, manifested as no need for sexual activity or sexual impulses. Sexual aversion is a sustained rejection or aversion response to sexual organ contact or sexual needs with a partner, characterized by strong and unreasonable extreme fear or avoidance of sex. Individuals with sexual arousal disorders may have normal sexual desire and a subjective desire to promote sexual harmony; In addition to the lack of sexual knowledge, patients may also have factors such as sexual psychological disorders, reproductive tract inflammation, abnormal secretion of sex hormones, and some may be affected by systemic diseases and medication. We suggest that you first undergo an examination to eliminate organic lesions. If it is indeed a sexual psychological problem, you can use behavioral therapy such as "sexy concentration training" for treatment.