Is this relationship worth it for me to keep my husband cheating and missing with a third party

After five years of marriage in a blink of an eye, we have been in love for a relatively short time, which is the kind of situation where we get married first and then fall in love. "At that time, I was pregnant with a child, but I was reluctant to give it up. After discussing with my parents, I decided to get married.". After our marriage, we have been treating each other with respect. My husband's family is in a bad situation, and he didn't buy a house when he got married. The house at home was simply decorated as a wedding room. During the renovation, there was no floor heating installed in the home, and the cost of opening the air conditioner was too high to be willing to. When it was cold in the winter, it got into the bed. Living a long and narrow life can save a little. After all, with children, there will be more places to spend money in the future.

My parents loved me and my son, so they cleaned up a house and let us move in for a few years. My husband works very hard and enjoys good popularity in the company. Last year, the company promoted him and doubled his salary. The two of us discussed and used the money we had saved over the past few years to borrow some money from the bank to buy a 90-square two-bedroom apartment. "I can't stay at my parents' house all the time, and the impact is not good. My younger brother is also older now, in his twenties, and many places are inconvenient.". After that, we made a down payment for the house and paid the mortgage every month. The decoration was delayed for a while, until we had enough money to save.

Since my husband's promotion, I have known more friends. I often visit those entertainment clubs, and sometimes I don't even come back late at night. I vaguely sensed the abnormality of my husband, who often drank too much and had a woman's long hair on his clothes. Sometimes when I go out and wear clothes, I come back and change them. I tested him to see if there were women outside, and he never admitted it. He didn't tell me until the woman became pregnant and couldn't hide it. If the other party says they won't pay, they'll make trouble at our house. However, my husband took a sum of money to give to the third child, which was the money we were preparing to decorate. Now my husband has been hollowed out and honest for several months.

This year, we renovated our house, but we didn't have enough money, so we borrowed some from our parents. Moving into a new house and newly decorated home, the atmosphere is also good, and my husband and I have subconsciously warmed up a lot. Who knows, less than a month after moving back, he called back to his original form, stayed up at night, and his phone was busy. Later, I investigated and found out that the third party had returned and hooked up with my husband.

This time, my husband was completely fascinated by her. He not only gave her money, but also proposed a divorce to me. A week ago, I was playing missing with a third party. I couldn't get through to him on the phone, and the unit couldn't find anyone. Their leader said he had asked for leave. I couldn't find him and cried anxiously. He has no sense of responsibility. The other day, he sent me a WeChat message saying that he was going out to relax and let me leave him alone. I really don't know what the point is for me to guard such a man?

Reply from the maintenance consultant:

From your narration, I can see a circular pattern where he cheats and you compromise. "The first time he cheated, it didn't end in front of you. You didn't ask for an explanation, but simply comforted yourself from the bottom of your heart: it would be good if he could return to his family.". He is back, but has his heart returned? With a little trickery from the third party, he couldn't find the direction of life. Now, he puts aside his responsibilities as a husband, father, and son, and runs to be at ease with the third party. And you didn't just cry, still waiting for him to turn around. You can't change the status quo with a recurring lifestyle.

First, clarify these issues. Now that things have reached this stage, you must face them squarely. "You have been in love for a relatively short time, and after getting married, you directly enter a life of dependency. As a man, he must have a rather stiff waist.". Now, his economic strength and ambition have also begun to expand, and he likes the feeling of being sought after by others. He enjoys the stimulation of extramarital affairs, but you have not dealt with them in a timely manner, making him more and more reckless and courageous.

Personally, I believe that you should adjust and correct your lifestyle. You can tolerate his bad habits, but you can never tolerate his cheating behavior. In marriage, once you lose your dignity, you can say that there is nothing left. You can be bullied and laughed at casually. What you need to do now is to improve your own strength, collect evidence of his infidelity, his property, and his children. If he doesn't realize the seriousness of the problem, divorce decisively, and strive for greater rights, there will be no good thing in the world that he doesn't drown in two boats.