Last year, I found my husband cheating. Our child is six years old. He admitted cheating and wants to divorce me. I didn't want to divorce, so I kept dragging on and said I wouldn't divorce.
He and his mistress have openly cohabited outside for more than a year. Since we moved, all around us are his drinking friends. He goes home to sleep many times, and will say hello if he doesn't come back. But sometimes he still can't find others. Several neighbors said to go out to play together, and he also took me to play. Later, when I came back, I found that he still contacted the third.
I called the third and talked calmly to persuade her to leave, saying that it was not worth marrying such a man. This man lied to you because I would not promise to divorce. I said a lot, and the third also promised that I would not pay any attention to my husband.
I'm not afraid of them being together. I just hope that he can come back more. After all, this is a home. I hope that he will come back for the night. Don't be too blatant when playing outside and save me some face.
But I haven't had sex with him for two years. In fact, I am also very bitter, but I don't know if I am really willing. In fact, I still hope my son can be accompanied by his parents. At the Spring Festival, he also promised me to go home and have a good life, but as soon as I drank, I couldn't find anyone. I knew he was there, but I didn't want to prove it. He cheated me for ten years. I asked myself: can I really forgive his cheating, can I really forgive his cruelty to me in the past year? I was very upset. I wanted to ask the teacher and help me. This time, will my husband return to my family?
Reply:
Hello, friend. After ten years of marriage, it has naturally reached the most prosaic period of marriage. The time of her husband's cheating is about five years. In these five years, you have not only made no resistance to it, but have been compromising and hoping to live a complete marriage life. In this contradictory ideological struggle, you have lost more and more in marriage.
In fact, a husband's cheating has a certain responsibility of his wife. A cheating man is like a lost child. As a wife, you have the obligation to guide him back to the right path. As for the current situation, it is impossible to stay married and look forward to her husband's return. The best way is to give her more love, go out with her husband to do more work, and go out for dinner and shopping with the three members of the family to increase the family's peaceful atmosphere. In addition, improve your survival ability, give the third child a certain threat, and let him know that you are not a lamb to be slaughtered.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)