How can I soften my husband after quarreling with him? Women all hope that their husbands can let themselves down when they quarrel, but they don't know that this requires wisdom in dealing with each other. If you want your husband to show more respect for you, learn from these types of women!
Even if a man does something wrong, he should not be ridiculed in front of others, but when he comes home, he will give a blunt warning
"No one is perfect, so in marriage relationships, men are allowed to make mistakes, as long as they are not principled mistakes, and they can make them to the point. If they are principled mistakes, serious criticism should be given.". A woman who taunts her husband in public will not show her strength, but will only expose your resentful wife's ugly appearance; Women, closing the door to criticize their husbands is about cultivation and caring. When criticizing a man in public, he may not speak up, but a strong rebellious mood surges inside; Women close the door to criticize men, and men often sincerely admit their mistakes, and can have the effect of acknowledging and correcting them. For this reason, intelligent women often give men face in front of everyone and show a virtuous appearance. However, when they return home, they also show their true qualities as shrewd wives, making men extremely respected.
I never say anything wrong about my parents-in-law in front of my husband and others, and I often urge my husband to go home and have a look
Women should always remember a hard truth: no matter how bad their parents-in-law is, they are also their husbands and parents. Frequent mention of parents-in-law in front of their husbands can cause men to become impatient because they are fed up with the role of being insubordinate. "If a woman frequently says in front of everyone that her parents-in-law is not, they will feel that a single slap cannot make a sound, and thus determine that you are also a relatively difficult master, thus staying away from you.". In fact, today's conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mainly caused by generation gaps and differences in their views on some things, as well as the childcare tendencies shown by parents-in-law, as well as different views on child care or child education. In this regard, women need to understand that caring for the baby is an instinct and parents-in-law is not obligated to help you take care of the child. If parents-in-law are willing to take care of the child, regardless of whether their behavior is appropriate, they must have a grateful heart. Of course, some parents-in-law are really wonderful. Please try to avoid confrontation with them.
Don't compare the strengths of others to the weaknesses of your husband, especially when he is in low spirits, give generous encouragement
There are two main reasons why women quarrel with men: they are left out in the cold or their husbands neglect their work. People are already in the third, sixth, and ninth grades, and even siblings may have gaps in their careers. For this reason, do not compare your husband with other men. If you have opinions or expectations about your husband, it is best to choose a case by case approach. Otherwise, the comparison will not make a man feel guilty, and instead, a man will rebut you, 'Who do you like, who do you go with?'. For a woman, the original intention of comparing her husband to others must be to expect her husband to be better, but it often backfires. At the same time, men who cheat after successful careers tend to be blamed by their wives before grassroots counterattacks. To a greater extent, cheating is an emotional catharsis of being nagged about when they are "cowardly." For this reason, women should encourage their husbands when their careers are at a low ebb, rather than dislike them.
"Some white lies about your husband, even if they are seen through, will not be exposed, and when quarrelling, do not turn over the past."
Many women feel that their husbands belong to their own private property and should be transparent in front of them. In fact, men always have secrets that they don't want their wives to know, such as the 'filial piety money' that they don't want to reveal to their parents; Not willing to explain to his wife the details of communication with friends of the opposite sex. As long as men are not foolish and filial, women should acquiesce in the lies of men in their parents-in-law 'filial piety towards money'; As long as men are not ambiguous with their friends of the opposite sex, women should acquiesce in allowing men to have pink confidants. What kind of white lies men just don't want to make women upset, not really want to hide from women. White lies just show that men care about you. However, some women have not learned to act silly and frequently expose men's white lies, causing men to lose face and feel that privacy has been exposed, resulting in boredom, leading to an increasing number of secrets that men cannot tell in front of women. In addition, quarrels between husband and wife are actually quarrels, and quarrels are a form aimed at criticism and self criticism. Therefore, when quarreling, do not turn over the past.
Speak and do things in an orderly manner, rarely make trouble without reason, and do not like nagging, but also ensure that the interior of the house is clean
The relationship between husband and wife is a partnership, rather than a voluntary contribution by one party to the other. For this reason, both men and women should make the best of their duties, and never hold the idea of demanding high standards from their husbands and low standards from themselves. Otherwise, the marriage model of automatically taking and not knowing how to pay will only make men more and more chill. Moreover, being a knowledgeable and reasonable woman is always more popular with men than being an unreasonable woman. Usually, men don't want to go home because their wives are nagging or the house is too messy. Men's emotional needs are usually simple and direct, so women should reduce their complaints about life, rather than complaining about men's laziness after working for their families. That will only have the effect of being helpful and not pleasing. For this reason, women prefer to order men to participate in household chores, rather than scold men for being lazy after taking care of household chores.