Post Date December, 03 2023
Extramarital love is a very emotional activity of human beings. Because of its special activity form and input-output method, it is easier to reveal its abnormal and anti-moral nature by analyzing it with cost analysis method, so as to achieve the purpose of reducing the occurrence rate.
The cost of extramarital affairs can be classified as follows according to the description of extramarital affairs in street gossip, gossip news and literary works.
He chose to cheat and lost his wife's feelings
Choosing one opportunity means giving up another opportunity. Therefore, choosing needs to pay a price, which is cost. For example, if you are hungry to lose weight, then the desire to lose weight realized by losing fat is the benefit, and the hungry food and the resulting hunger and damage to organs are the cost of investment. Because of the exclusiveness of human love, choosing extramarital affairs will sacrifice the once happy family and bring negative personal reputation. When a person faces the temptation of love after marriage, he can choose to give up or choose extramarital affairs. Then, when choosing extramarital affairs, he will pay the opportunity cost of sacrificing his family and personal reputation.
You may encounter nothing
There are risks in doing anything. To prevent these risks, we must pay costs. Extramarital love is a high-risk activity because it is not a normal love affair. In order to prevent risks, we should be cautious and pay more energy, material and financial resources, which is a kind of risk cost. On the other hand, because extramarital affairs are not protected by law, there is a risk of disintegration at any time. In order to stabilize the relationship, both men and women or one of them will take measures to prevent risks, such as mental entrapment and material temptation. These inputs are also risk costs.
The impact of derailment on other aspects of life
In order to know the situation of the other party, both parties of the extramarital affair, whether out of concern or reconnaissance, should realize it through telephone, network, letter, interpersonal communication and other means, so they should pay telephone fees, network usage fees, communication fees, interpersonal entertainment fees, etc. In addition, one or both parties of an extramarital affair can't get the information about the results of their communication correctly, so that they are addicted to it. Finally, due to the lack or asymmetry of information, the emotional activities of both parties fail, resulting in feelings of pain, regret or helplessness, thus affecting their personal lives, which is also the cost of information.
Cost of being with the third party
Everyone has to eat and entertain. The parties to the extramarital affair have further increased the consumption of the cost of food and entertainment due to their special circumstances. Because the two people do not take life as their purpose, but only for pleasure, the cost of food and entertainment is higher than that of normal people. In order to please the other party, one side of an extramarital affair tends to have a higher level of consumption. Few novels describe an extramarital affair in which two people drink Congee and eat pickles together. In terms of entertainment, in the novel, both parties often engage in entertainment by singing and dancing in the dance hall, or drinking tea and chatting in the coffee shop or tea house, which requires a high cost.
The first is the cost of buying flowers for extramarital affairs. For Valentine's Day, the other party's birthday, Christmas and so on, you need to send flowers to win the other party's favor. Second, cakes and snacks. For each other's birthday or holiday, buy cakes or snacks such as melon seeds, peanuts and cranberries to adjust the atmosphere. Except for children, everyone eats cake and snacks only for their symbolic meaning, so the cost in this regard belongs to the cost of etiquette. Third, cosmetics are mostly the cost consumed by the woman. Fourth, clothes. Buy clothes for each other to maintain a good image and strengthen the relationship.
Derailment becomes common
At present, the phenomenon of "junior three" is rampant in society. Some people think it is abnormal. To some extent, it is more and more normal. With the continuous development of society, people's basic desires have been satisfied, and they will begin to pursue their own inner or spiritual satisfaction, which will give birth to many social phenomena that we have seen that are very different from the past. Many people begin to become unwilling to control their desires and demands.
Now the society has become popular with "sub lovers", which can be said to be a kind of "spiritual mistress", which people use to alleviate the fatigue brought by the society.
In terms of themselves, "junior" are quite independent to a large extent. They are not dependent on someone, and sometimes even more pursue spiritual and emotional satisfaction.
In terms of quantity or popularity, "mistresses", because they pursue money and material satisfaction, must account for a very small number in society, because this requires men to have good material conditions. The requirements of "junior" in this regard have been greatly reduced, so some people who may have poor economic conditions can also have junior. This makes the "junior" more universal.
How to keep men from cheating?
We usually think that sexual liberation comes from western society, and their marriage is also chaotic. In fact, the real chaos is a small number of people. As the backbone of society, the middle class is mostly conservative. Maybe they will fall in love many times before marriage, but once they get married, they will keep their engagement and will not and dare not betray easily. Because the cost of divorce stipulated in the laws and regulations is not low, wives usually take the weapon of law to protect their dignity and rights when they encounter a mistress.
Whether in the East or the West, this has always been a hot topic. Is there a solution? How to deal with it? How to avoid it? It is undeniable that there is an increase in the number of third parties in China, which is related to the low cost of derailment. In China, because the cost of derailment is relatively low, the current phenomenon of "third party" can be said to be more serious than that of many western countries. All civilized societies now follow monogamy. However, no one can guarantee that the marriage will remain unchanged, so it is necessary for both husband and wife to manage the marriage together. Many women will fall into a misunderstanding after marriage, that is, if they get married, as long as they keep it well, they will have no problem, and will make themselves a wife who has not changed for several years. It is necessary to point out that after marriage, the couple should continue to keep fresh, either by changing their hair style, eating a romantic dinner, or often giving each other some small surprises.
Couples should often recall the good things in life together. People are forgetful. Strengthening memory is an essential way to consolidate marriage. At the same time, good communication is also an indispensable part between husband and wife.
Of course, people's self-discipline is also very important. When people have self-discipline, they will learn to control their own desires, which can also reduce the probability of marital infidelity.
Although it is said that the majority of cheating is men, there is no distinction between men and women. This also reminds us that the continuation of a relationship requires the joint input of two people, and even after marriage, there can be no slack. Otherwise, it's easy to find the affair.
