Men and women always perceive emotions from different perspectives. People like to guess many things from signals. However, some chaotic signals often become obstacles to the love journey. Be careful not to be mistaken.
In order to help you avoid emotional misunderstandings, we have recorded the most easily misinterpreted emotional signals. Before your next date, you might as well take a good look at it.
Signal 1: Who pays the bill
"When you say, 'Let's make our dinner AA.' It actually means, 'I really mean it to you, but now that it's the 21st century, I've got a very good job, and I've just made some money. There's no reason why you should always pay for my meals, is there?'" The signal he receives is, 'I don't want to feel like I owe you anything because of money.' "
In fact, the proper transmission signal is originally like this: there is no need to make it clear who pays. A simple rule is that whoever offers to invite will pay.
"I hate being treated like a little woman on a date." One girl said, "But if he insists, I'll let him pay the bill, and then if we go out for dessert or something to drink, I'll pay for it. After our first date, we'll still be under the AA system. Another option is to let him pay the bill, but suggest that I take him to a bar the next time, which is good."
Signal 2: With a "light bulb"
When you say, "Can I bring a friend?" Actually, you want to say, 'I really want to have dinner with you on Friday night, but I have a very good girlfriend in advance, and I don't want to disappoint her.' ". Besides, I also want to show her how great you are.
He thought you were saying, "I don't want to be alone with you.".
It was originally like this: When a man wants to have a two person world, it is not a pleasant thing for a third person to join. "I plan to spend the weekend with Xiaodai." Xiaojin and Xiaodai are just friends, hoping to enhance their understanding through this trip, "Finally, she asked me if her friend could join. I think that time, she was looking for a sense of security. A few months later, I discovered that Xiao Dai was originally interested in me, just because her friend had a family crisis, and Xiao Dai wanted to make her feel better with a happy weekend. I thought she had no feelings for me anymore."
In order to avoid setting obstacles to the pursuit that you are interested in, making him feel that you did not intentionally bring a light bulb to hinder your further intimate contact, "We suggest, 'If you just don't want to break up with a friend, say to him,' I really want to see you, but I already have an appointment. If possible, we can take her back in the evening and go for coffee together. 'If you want to make your green light signal more visible, you can praise him and say,' I talked to her about you and the nice personal website you created. '"
Signal 3: After helping
She said, "Can you help me install my new home theater?" This means, "I really want to get to know you better in a comfortable and peaceful environment." He understood, "I need a man like you to support my life. When you finish, I will give you the rewards you like."
Helping a girl in trouble is every man's natural responsibility, whether it's repairing her stereo speakers or handling her pickle jar. "My friend introduced him to me, thinking I would like it very much, and I wanted to make our first date a little more mundane," Zimei still remembers, buying a floor lamp there while shopping at the supermarket. "When he helped me carry it home, I invited him into the room for a cup of lemon tea. Unexpectedly, as soon as he sat down, his arm hugged me..."
To avoid this, it's best to choose somewhere else instead of thanking him in your bedroom. The appropriate expression should be: I will invite you out to dinner as a token of gratitude. Or choose another friend's time to invite him to your house.
Signal 4: Don't Understand Rejection
"She's saying, 'I don't want to fall in love yet.'" She means, 'I'm not interested in you at all.' The boy understands, 'I don't want to see you today, but you can ask me out tomorrow or next week.' "
Even if your date is as annoying as a camphor ball, and you spend the entire lunch talking about his mother, it's hard to refuse him outright. So it is necessary to find a good way to make him give up easily. "I met Haoran during sports training and we dated, but he was too nervous with me, so I told him I just wanted to make friends with you," Lily said.
Different people have different reactions to this point, and more people will reinterpret it according to their preferences. Indeed, young men often don't understand this type of rejection signal. If you tell them that you only want to be friends with them, they will think: That's good. Many love often stems from friendship. In his heart, you just need time to change your perception of him.
So we suggest that when you don't like someone, honesty is the best way. "It's difficult, but as long as you say frankly, 'I'm sorry you're not suitable for me.' Many men will accept it, and they will say, 'You're so kind, thank you for not wasting my time.'"
Signal 5: Attend Others' Weddings Together
The girl said, "My cousin will get married next month, will you accompany me to the party?" Her meaning was, "If I don't bring a companion, my aunt will let me stay with her assistant again.".
"If you attend as a friend of a family member, you can cover for me, and you will be very happy that day."
He thought, "I feel good about you and want to take you to meet my family, and I sincerely hope that the wedding bell will ring for us in the future."
"An invitation to a wedding can make a shy man think it's a signal to be with him. A girlfriend I once knew invited me as a friend to a wedding at her house, and I thought free cakes and beer would be great," Hou recalled, "But when we got there, everyone treated us like a couple, even calling me over and praising me loudly: This is Yi Juan and her boyfriend. So I fantasized that she was hinting something to me through her family. But the next day, she apologized to those relatives and friends who were eager to attend the second wedding soon.".
So, how can you invite him to a major event without making him fantasize?
Suggestion: Interrupt all statements that you think you are a couple and give them a brief explanation to avoid making them suspicious. Tell him in advance who will be there, and remind his potentially annoying relatives and friends of what he must wear. "Tell him, 'I'm glad to have you with me, but if going to a family banquet makes you feel uncomfortable, I deeply understand.'"
Signal 6: I want to contact you again
"I'm glad to meet you, I have to leave now." You mean, "I like you the most at this party, but my friend is leaving, and I don't want to go home alone. Now it's time for you to ask me for your phone number." He understood, "Goodbye, fool."
At parties, the ambiguity rate of the signal is higher than the drunkenness rate, so it will be more difficult to read your meaning. "Last week, I went out to celebrate my birthday with my friends, and I met a girl I really liked," Xiao Wei said. "I thought we were really destined, but she just stood there, stared at me for a moment, and then said, 'Goodbye.' Xiao Wei thought she wasn't interested in him, and when he learned a few days later that this was what she wanted him to invite her out, he was very angry: 'How can I know?'"
We suggest that, in order to avoid such misunderstandings, for safety reasons, directly give him your phone number, and he will greatly appreciate your frankness. If you feel that giving him a phone call at home is too direct, give him your business card or company phone number!