Post Date December, 03 2023
Emotional counseling: My husband has someone outside. After walking for more than three months, I went to the ground with the woman outside. My child and I went to see him, but he didn't mean to come back. My child and I will be back.
We have been married for eight years. The child is seven years old. After returning, I also called him every day and he also answered. Later, my mother got sick and he came back. I haven't left since I came back. But now he seems to have completely changed his personality, contacting women outside on WeChat every day.
"I feel very uncomfortable inside, thinking about getting divorced, but I still can't do it when I see the children, and I can't let go of my eight year relationship.". "After coming back, he quarreled with me and said that he would divorce. I begged him not to let me and the children go. The women outside are not sincere to you, and every time he talks about it, he becomes anxious.". Tell me not to talk about such a topic in the future. If you can handle it, you will feel it.
I don't know what I should do to save my marriage now. Faced with him sending WeChat messages every day and the woman talking to him on the phone, my heart is really uncomfortable and I want to let go. Coco still wants to save it. It may take a long time for me to persuade myself that I will gradually change my mind. I don't know what I should do. I hope you can help me.
Expert response: Emotion is not about begging, let alone being humble. Once love becomes humble, it will become increasingly depressed. Your situation, like many women facing marital crisis, is based on children as an excuse for not letting go of years of love and unwilling to divorce.
One of the words I often say is: either endure or get out, or you're also cheating! "The truth is that your husband is cheating, and if you don't want to divorce, you have to endure it. If you don't want to divorce, even if you don't want to, no one will accuse you of being wrong. However, the man in front of you no longer loves you at all. If you want to use a child as a reason to save his heart, he won't be moved. Do you still think he still loves you?"?
A wise woman will not spend time in a failed marriage. She must come out, because at this time your closest lover no longer cares about you, and only you can make your life better. "You can choose not to divorce for the time being, but you must not put your thoughts on him, or you can work hard to make money and juggle multiple functions to make yourself feel too tired to think about emotional matters.".
Or you can also date other men, chat about feelings, life, work, and so on. Maybe if you meet the man you love, you will gradually have the idea of divorce.
Either way, the goal is to be able to leave him, not look at him or miss him, keep your life in order, and not mess up your life because of his emotional betrayal.
