Many couples with disharmonious marriages always ask me, is there any secret to a happy couple? Only then can marriage be sweeter, more harmonious and fulfilling. In fact, there is no secret to this. It's just that they never do anything to break up their relationship in the face of their married life. And the following four things they won't touch.
1. Random suspicion
Suspicion is a major taboo in marriage. Everyone is a different individual, so don't assume that you know your partner's thoughts and feelings like the palm of your hand. Nine out of ten, you will make mistakes. In marital crises, this situation often occurs: the suspicion of catching clues makes both individuals angry, difficult to communicate, and ultimately the relationship breaks down. When encountering questions, the best way is to ask him directly.
2. As it should be
No one owes anyone, so don't take everything your partner does to you for granted. When our loved ones do something for us, we should be grateful. At the same time, if you want to make your married life more fulfilling, you need to eliminate three major negative attitudes: a sense of power, unrealistic expectations, and pretentious forgetfulness. Try to write down the big and small things your partner has done for you. Ask yourself if you have expressed gratitude for these things and how it is expressed. Keep expressing gratitude for a week, and you will notice the changes.
3. Mutual complaints
When there is a "fight" between lips and teeth, let alone when people go from unfamiliar to familiar, it is inevitable to have bumps and bumps. And when we encounter conflicts, don't just blame each other, even if it's their mistake. We should self-examine our responsibilities and finally discuss with the other party to find a solution. Constantly complaining, complaining, and even retaliating can only escalate and worsen conflicts.
4. Afraid of saying 'no'
In marital relationships, many couples never dare to say "no" loudly when facing each other. And this self sacrifice practice of not daring to say "no" and constantly enduring seems beneficial, but in reality, it is a manifestation of insincerity. It is difficult to have intimacy in a marriage without sincerity. It's better to be honest and win the trust of your partner, deepening the relationship between husband and wife. You may want to list all the things you are afraid of telling your partner based on their level of difficulty. Afterwards, start with the simplest thing and try to tell your partner the truth.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)