Gender Marriage: Talk about Women Who Have Extramarital Relationships, How Many Can Go Back

Gender Marriage: Talking about Women Who Have Extramarital Relationships, How Many Can Go Back

For some women, entering an extramarital relationship seems to be uncontrollable. When women get into the agony of extramarital affairs, they only think of divorce.

In less than two years, Li Mei (a pseudonym of the department) changed from a woman whom everyone admired to a poor woman who abandoned her husband and son, and was abandoned by her lover. Now, Li Mei is too regretful for her extramarital affair. So if time can turn back, can she avoid such mistakes? Li Mei shook her head blankly, "I don't know!"

Once a happy family

Previously, relatives and friends around Li Mei envied that she had a good husband, Wei Peng (a pseudonym of the department), who took care of Li Mei meticulously while working in the government.

Li Mei doesn't like cooking, so Wei Peng rushes home to cook every day as soon as she gets off work. By the time Li Mei came home, Wei Peng had already brought the food to the table. After more than 10 years of marriage, Li Mei has cooked almost a handful of times, maintaining her hands white and smooth, almost comparable to the hands of a mannequin.

When they first got married, their income was low, and after having a son, their finances became even more tense. In order to make a better life for his wife and children, Wei Peng has been using his spare time to work part-time to supplement his expenses.

Although his life was not rich, Wei Peng himself couldn't even afford to buy a pair of socks for 5 yuan, but he didn't frown when he bought his wife a dress for more than 1000 yuan.

On his way from work, Wei Peng would buy some delicious food for his wife and children. Watching them eat happily, Wei Peng felt very satisfied. "With such a beautiful wife and smart son, it's worth a bit of hardship to be tired.".

Lover's wife knocks on the door

The beauty in Wei Peng's eyes was shattered on a weekend afternoon in 2002. At that time, a middle-aged woman with three men burst into the house, calling Li Mei "shameless" and starting to punch and kick. Wei Peng hurried forward to dissuade Li Mei, who took the opportunity to sneak into the bedroom. The middle-aged woman slapped a stack of photos onto the coffee table.

The photos are all images of his wife and a middle-aged man getting intimate. Wei Peng was stunned at the moment, while the middle-aged woman reluctantly threatened to give Li Mei some color to see.

Fearing that his wife would be hurt, Wei Peng knelt down in a hurry and said, "Elder sister, I don't know anything about this matter. Please give me face and let me ask you clearly before I give you an answer.". Under Wei Peng's bitter entreaties, the middle-aged woman left with the others.

Li Mei opened the door of the room, and before Wei Peng could speak, she knelt down in front of him and said, "I'm sorry for you, let's get a divorce.". After the doubt in his heart was confirmed in his wife's mouth, Wei Peng sat motionless on the sofa all night, "Why am I so good to her, and all I get is her betrayal?"

An office romance cannot be accepted

Li Mei's extramarital affair had been going on for three years when it was discovered. "Li Mei couldn't explain exactly how this extramarital affair began, as if everything had gone naturally.".

Because she doesn't have to do housework, Li Mei always stays up late at the office before leaving; Her boss was unwilling to go home because of a marital feud and stayed at the office.

After work, Li Mei passed her boss's office and saw him sighing alone. It turned out that the boss had just quarreled with his wife the day before, and when he saw Li Mei, he was greatly distressed. Li Mei felt a pang of sadness in her heart, "Such a talented person, yet so pitiful.".

With compassion, Li Mei began to take the initiative to care for her boss, offering him advice to resolve family disputes, serving as a counselor when he was buying clothes, and taking care of his sick mother on his behalf

About six months later, on Li Mei's birthday, her supervisor unexpectedly gave her a gold necklace. Then, the two had a relationship in the office.

After the event, Li Mei often compared her boss with her husband, feeling that her boss was "talented and capable of living," while her husband was "really bored.".

Half a year later, I got married again

In early 2003, Li Mei and Wei Peng divorced. A few months later, the boss also went through divorce procedures, and then married Li Mei Lightning.

Within two months of marriage, Li Mei found that life was not as good as she had imagined. My husband doesn't do any housework. Li Mei is sweating in the kitchen after work, but he looks like he's in the office, reading newspapers with a teacup in his hand.

After four months of marriage, Li Mei suddenly found out that her husband still kept in touch with his former wife. Moreover, upon receiving a phone call from his son when he is sick, he will immediately rush out of the house and even hesitate to change his shoes.

Li Mei felt even more aggrieved when she thought that her husband was also very strict in terms of money and never gave her a penny after marriage. As a result, within six months, Li Mei divorced again.

After divorce, Li Mei found Wei Peng in the name of babysitting and knelt down again, hoping that her ex husband would forgive her. After his divorce, Wei Peng lost confidence in women.

Looking at his tearful wife, Wei Peng felt only heartache, "I will never forget the joy my wife felt when she knew I agreed to divorce."

Expert: Think twice before acting

Li Aiping, a marriage expert at Guiboda Weiqing Consulting Company, introduced that in real life, most people still only focus on men's extramarital affairs, but now there are not a few women who cheat, and the proportion of Gaozhi women who cheat is higher. Once a woman has an extramarital affair, it is difficult to turn back, and the proportion of family breakdowns is very high. At the same time, many people feel unhappy after marrying an extramarital partner, and even miss their original marriage life.

Li Mei and her boss have an extramarital affair, which Li Aiping believes is not Li Mei's responsibility alone. Wei Peng also has a responsibility. His failure lies in spending all his spare time earning extra money, believing that giving his wife a good material life is good for her. But in the eyes of his wife, what he did was not as warm as going for a walk together after dinner.

For some women, entering an extramarital relationship seems to be uncontrollable. However, Li Aiping believes that extramarital love is not inevitable. Li Mei's empathy for her boss is a dangerous signal. If she can brake in time at this time and does not have further contact with her boss, there will be no subsequent love affair. Li Mei unconsciously played the role of his wife while helping her boss buy clothes and take care of his sick mother. These actions also triggered a favorable impression on Li Mei by her boss, and further pushed the extramarital affair forward. The boss sent Li Mei a birthday gift, which undoubtedly pushed their relationship to a cliff.

When women get into the agony of extramarital affairs, they only think of divorce. Li Aiping warned these women, "Many young women understand from the time of their first love that love and marriage cannot be completely equated. When engaging in extramarital affairs, women should consider more issues, such as what to do with their children in the future, whether they can defuse the hostility of the other party's family, whether they can tolerate the other party and still care about their original children... These seemingly insignificant small issues have enormous energy to break a marriage again."