Post Date December, 03 2023
What should I say to save my marriage? Whether in movies, TV shows, or real life, we have seen many examples of couples having a cold war, separation, or divorce. We may even comment on who did wrong, but when these problems happen to us, we become a fan of the situation and feel helpless when faced with the fact that the other person is about to leave us.
Requesting forgiveness, persisting, and begging will only accelerate the pace of the other party's departure. What can be done to salvage the marriage and bring the other party back to their own side? Firstly, you need to know that the other party is in a completely negative state towards you, they no longer expect everything related to you, and you are no longer attractive to them. So, in order to recover, in addition to finding the reason, you also need to make changes.
Only change can eliminate the negative impression of you from the other party. In the process of redemption, contact is essential, so it takes some skills to say what to say to salvage a marriage. Here are some technical tips to share, hoping to be helpful for your redemption.
1、 The Crisis of Marriage
Too concerned about what others say. Image or reputation is everything. Two people want to please everyone around them. They will change themselves for the sake of others' opinions, and they will wrongly themselves or their spouses in order to make others feel happy. Please always remember that none of these people can accompany you through the long journey of life. Your spouse will accompany you on this journey, so don't treat your spouse unfairly because of others' words.
I am too proud to accept my wife's opinion. Some people are very proud and do not accept the opinions of their spouses. They consider their own ideas as absolute laws. This leads to spouses being unable to express their opinions when making decisions about children, marriage, money, etc. This can make the spouse feel neglected and psychologically upset. This situation began to undermine his confidence and affect his judgment of self-worth.
Work and life stress. These pressures are very common in marriage. In a typical family, both the husband and wife have their own jobs, and both have to face work pressure. Then, when they return home, they also have to face many trivial things in life. When the couple often or even face these pressures every day, they will expose their inherent weaknesses and become prone to losing their temper, leading to tense marital relationships.
2、 What cannot be said to salvage marriage
I was wrong, okay? "This is a common saying used by boys when there is a conflict between them. They think it's a peace of mind and don't argue with you. Who knows, when the woman hears it, she becomes even more furious. If you feel like your attitude is perfunctory, don't say anything. You should know that you are trying to save the other party, not reasoning with her, let alone provoking them.
I will definitely change... "is easy to change, but one's nature cannot be changed. Believing that the other party can tolerate your shortcomings is not overnight. If you are willing and determined to correct it, it is better to completely change it before telling her, which can better demonstrate your sincerity and determination. Don't be a giant in words, but a dwarf in action.
I promise you everything you say. "" Whatever you say is what you say. "It sounds very fake and hypocritical, and it will only give you a point reduction for redemption. Often, you agree to everything, but in the end, you don't achieve anything, even laying the fuse for the conflicts that follow. When there is a dispute, the girl often says, "You promised me something and what... did you do it
I swear/promise... "If you don't have the confidence and ability to do it, don't easily make vows and promises. Promises that cannot be fulfilled are cheap and will only create a casual and irresponsible image for the other party.
3、 What can be said to salvage marriage
To salvage marriage, one must first admit one's mistakes. Emotional experts have said, "Summarizing one's own problems is the easiest mistake to make in saving love." When she is extremely angry, it is best not to say anything for the time being and to show a sincere attitude of admitting the mistake. Once her anger subsides, apologize and slowly explain to her.
To salvage marriage, one must be sincere. If you want to save your wife, you need to understand that every word you say is sincere and not a bit false. Don't say something that moves her and think her wife will forgive you, and then repeat the bad habits of the past. Always on the phone, always going out for socializing, always chatting on WeChat, playing Weibo, and other behaviors that make her look uncomfortable, Even if your wife has great tolerance, it will be consumed by you!
To salvage marriage, it is necessary to resonate and explore your shared interests and hobbies, the happy places you have been to, and say something that reminds her of how much resonance and love sparks you had before, rather than talking to her about topics that are not relevant to her. If she listens, she will become bored and feel that there is no need to listen. So, if you say some words of redemption, it must be to introduce her into the scene that you both fantasize about, and everyone resonates and feels!
