"I thought about it for a moment, but it's actually a problem that many people get stuck with.". Many people believe that self-confidence is about magnifying their strengths and narrowing their weaknesses, but those who truly do so can easily become arrogant or insincere with a social mask. Until recently, when I discussed what it means to accept oneself, I really jumped out of the frame and unlocked the myth of strengths and weaknesses.
In fact, everything is one thing and two sides. The negative side of having an idea may be assertiveness, strength, and fun. The negative side may be unstable, the cute side may be bullying, the indifferent side may not waste too much unnecessary time, the lazy side may be because you don't do it so others can't bear to help you do it... etc.
People who seem to be very MAN may be more likely to be admired by girls, but it is not easy to establish friendships with girls, and long-term relationships eat the ingredients of friendship. Boys who seem more feminine tend to make girls let go of their guard, establish friendships, and get the moon first. If you make good use of your own characteristics, you will have your own sky.
"To accept oneself is not to magnify one's own strengths or narrow one's own weaknesses, because in fact, many people who accept oneself are actually" magnifying one's own weaknesses and narrowing one's own strengths, but everyone still loves him desperately. ".
"Because expectations are low at the beginning, the more you become aware of them, the more you will feel that they are not bottomless and that people cannot judge their appearance.". In the end, it is necessary to return to the mindset. If you magnify your own strengths while being afraid of others seeing your shortcomings, it means that you have not accepted your own characteristics at all.
What are advantages and disadvantages? That is, the one and two sides of a trait. The positive effect of a trait is called merit, and the negative effect of a trait is called shortcoming. As long as there is a trait, there must be merit and shortcoming. There is no trait that has only merit but no shortcoming, or that has only shortcoming but no merit.
Even if you think so, it's because you don't have that trait that makes you think so. People with that trait will definitely think that this trait is not as good as you think, and it also causes a lot of trouble for themselves. "Because you're not him, what's the point of insisting that something you haven't experienced is good or bad?"?
Since each trait has its advantages and disadvantages, it is important to first understand what negative or positive effects our trait will have on us, and then accept it. For example, my own shoulders are very wide, and people who like me will think that I can stand up and look decent in my clothes. People who don't like me will say that I am very strong and strong, and when I lose weight, I will become a clothes rack, and when I gain weight, I will become very strong. This is the evaluation advantage and disadvantage brought by my personality.
"Since my skeleton is not small, with this label and personality, and my own face is very similar to that of an ABC student who has studied abroad, many people have said that I am very aggressive and suitable for accessories such as knives, guns, and swords. I may become a girl of the type of Luola who is an ancient tomb wonder, and more likely to become a girl of celestial descent and ethereal temperament.".
"We have our own inherent qualities, but we also have our own plasticity. We still need to try and see what possibilities we have for development.".
Some things we cannot change, such as bone distribution, appearance, size of hands and feet, etc., but many things we can change, such as mentality, body language, tone of voice, and these changes alone can make our temperament change. Although the entire person does not feel as exaggerated as a deformation monster becoming another person, it at least makes people feel "very different.".
Therefore, we should improve our height and look at our own characteristics, rather than at our own strengths and weaknesses, and entangle ourselves in their own strengths or weaknesses, or deceive ourselves how there are no weaknesses or I have no strengths.
These are all things that do not help to increase confidence. Every character, such as a game or a character attribute, has its merits and practicality. As long as you can accept all its merits and shortcomings, and even convert them into usable potentials, you can use this character to the fullest and reach the peak.