I have something bothering me to consult with you! I am 26 years old this year, and I am currently with my second boyfriend. Last August, we split our first love boyfriend who had been together for 6 years. We started playing together in our sophomore year and developed into a romantic relationship in a daze. I haven't been together for three years in college, and I've been together for a long time. At that time, I just thought I had a boyfriend, so I also rejected a few guys who were chasing me. But after graduation, I found that it was really not suitable, so I divided it.
After breaking up, it's already 25 years old. My family members are worried about my marriage issues and are eager to introduce me to someone, urging me to find a boyfriend, which has put a lot of pressure on me. In late December of last year, I met him at a social dinner party, a police officer (sometimes I don't want to admit he's my boyfriend). After meeting him at the dinner party, he inquired about my situation. Do you have a boyfriend? Knowing that I broke up, I started asking me out to express my desire to be friends. I think we should also try to start a relationship and start everywhere.
He was very kind to me and showed me every care, but as I approached him, I found that he had a hot temper and was full of dirty words. However, he only treated others, but when he turned around, his face was gentle and gentle towards me. Upon further contact, I unexpectedly found out that he was doing some illegal and illegal things in front of the police (it should be said that he was a bad person). But he is really kind to me, asking questions from a humble cold. Although we have not yet confirmed our boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, he said he has identified me as his wife in his lifetime. He has a strong desire for control, restricts my friendships, and does not allow me to interact with other boys. Even if a male old classmate calls, he is full of jealousy and has two harsh complaints. So I feel like we're not suitable, I can't accept his world. I have also said a few breakups, and every time I finish speaking, he makes me calm down for a few days, thinking about his kindness to me, and whether I can afford him? Then he bought me this and that again, to put it mildly, the last time he cried and burst into tears. I softened my heart, thinking about his kindness to me, I don't think I should hurt him. Although he is not good to others, he is very good to me! Sometimes I feel like I'm a bird locked in his cage, and after a long time, I don't want to fly out of the cage! Can I make friends with people like this? Is there a future? Does he really love me? I am really confused, please help me!
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Hello, although your boyfriend is a police officer, from your confidences, he far lacks the basic qualities of a police officer, does not follow the law and discipline, and is jealous, narrow-minded, controlling, and irritable. Not to mention being a police officer, he is not qualified as a man. How could such a man really treat you well.
I think his kindness to you is temporary and unreliable. He just wants to have you, and besides, before marriage, which man who wants to pursue a girl wouldn't be good for her? If he's not good for you, would you still be with him? This is the most obvious truth. Whether a person is good to you or not depends not only on their appearance, but also on their character, personality, literacy, ability, and other factors. Whether they are willing to spend money for you or treat you well, this standard is too single.
For a girl, before marriage, she must keep her eyes wide open and see through the man, otherwise she will stumble into a marriage and regret her unhappy life later. Love is not equal to sympathy. When dealing with emotions, don't be afraid of hurting someone and force yourself. Instead, listen to the true call of your own heart and ask yourself whether you love that person or not. If you don't love, let go as soon as possible to prevent the longer the time, the greater the harm.