Two years ago, my ex husband had an affair because I had no house and couldn't let go of my child, which led to a Cold War that lasted for over two years. For over two years, my heart has turned to ashes, day by day, and I have devoted all my energy to my children and work. Since the birth of a child, he has been indifferent to it until he accidentally got in touch with his junior high school classmates. I am the first girl he likes. When he realized my pessimism and helplessness, he gave me confidence and hope, so I mustered the courage to divorce my ex husband, who agreed. I must have the child, he won't give me the house. I didn't want any common property either. I just want to get rid of this oppressive situation. The child doesn't like him, I will give him more love, I think so. So I got divorced.
The next step is to rent a house, and he doesn't have a house either. He doesn't want to use his savings on the house, but instead wants to invest in business to earn more money before buying a house because the children's school is located in the inner ring of the city, but the housing prices in the inner ring are too high... With his hard work, finding a clean room near the school also takes 4500 yuan per month. Paid off one year's rent.
But just as I informed my ex husband that I was planning to move, he knelt down and confessed to me, saying he regretted it and gave him a chance. He cannot lose me and the child. He has made changes. However, I am so tied up in his heart that I cannot accept someone who has betrayed me. I insist on moving out.
The only thing that worries me the most is the child. I love and love children very much. I take them to the rented house and when it gets dark, they are eager to go back and refuse to sleep there. I am so sad, I am really afraid of hurting the child... Is it really necessary to go against my own heart for the sake of the child?
Ms. Sun:
When you insist on moving away, your heart really wants to stay, but you can't find a reason to stay. If your ex husband's attitude could have appeared before the divorce, you would definitely not have divorced. In fact, not getting divorced is secondary. The most important thing is that you can control your ex husband, and then he can get used to being controlled by you. However, if you continue to adopt a tolerant attitude towards life, you can only continue to accept fate's arrangements. Your happiness will always be passively obtained and lost, because you live like an ostrich and can tolerate it very much. If no one comes to redeem you, you will stand in place and accept the deteriorating reality of life, Until it is abandoned by reality.
So, if you continue to be a person waiting for fate to arrange, your situation will always return to the original point. Your boyfriend's impression of you is mostly stuck in his youth, and he often follows the memory of you. Men who are infatuated are usually moved by women, but men who are too infatuated may be more possessive.
Your ex husband has always been too easy to get, and if he doesn't go through such an event, he will never wake up. So, you must take this opportunity to sharpen his childish edges, give him enough life pressure, let him undergo the most realistic test, and in the future life, you must not only have your own life pursuit outside the besieged city, but also be able to be the mistress inside the besieged city. Don't be an ostrich, your ex husband will naturally be convinced of you and not dare to make mistakes.