Sexual life is the bond that maintains the relationship between husband and wife. If you have a good sexual life, your husband and wife will have a closer relationship and a happier life. However, if sexual apathy occurs, resulting in sexual life not being able to proceed normally, it is bound to destroy the relationship between husband and wife. So, what are the real culprits that lead to sexual apathy in couples?
1. Disharmony between husband and wife
For us, a harmonious relationship between husband and wife can maintain both parties' sexual desire levels without causing significant fluctuations. However, if the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, that is, when both parties have different views on sex, but cannot resolve differences through conversation, the conflict will deepen, which will affect both parties' sexual desire, frequency of sexual life, sexual lifestyle, etc. A husband blindly demands that his wife unconditionally comply with his sexual requirements, regardless of his wife's physical and emotional conditions, causing his wife to have an aversion to sexual intercourse and affecting sexual desire. Similarly, a wife's reluctance to meet her husband's normal sexual requirements for various reasons can also lead to changes in her husband's sexual desire. Of course, having a rigid, monotonous, routine sexual life for a long time often leads to decreased libido, which should be particularly valued among middle-aged couples.
2. Diet issues
Although couples live together, there are differences in their dietary patterns. British psychologists have recently pointed out that people who are overly fastidious about what they eat or deliberately dieting may not have as much energy and less intense libido as those who eat casually. At the same time, due to lower libido, it is often difficult to control their diet and overeat, resulting in a vicious cycle of lower libido. Therefore, we should maintain a scientific diet and not overdo it. Of course, it is not advisable to adopt methods such as dieting.
3. Psychological problems with contraception
Contraception is an essential safety measure in sexual life. There are various methods of contraception, and some women undergo tubal ligation surgery. However, after completing this surgery, women may feel reduced libido and suppressed sexual impulse due to mental effects, which can be eliminated through psychological treatment. After vasectomy in men, it does not affect the sexual function of the recipient, and the decline in sexual desire in individuals is also due to psychological factors. Women who place intrauterine devices for contraception may have lower libido due to prolonged periods or increased menstrual blood volume. Regarding contraception, we should adopt the best way for ourselves. By far, the most effective and best contraceptive method is condoms. If you undergo ligation surgery, you should consult a doctor to help you solve the problem.
4. Caused by external pressure
For today's people, the pressure is very high. Whether it's housing conditions, job stress, career success or failure, it can have a significant impact on sexual desire at some times. And returning home is also immersed in stress, which naturally affects sexual desire. Over time, it is easy to cause decreased libido and sexual apathy. To this end, we should learn to release pressure, resolve our own worries, and not let these become issues that affect marital intercourse.
5. Caused by negative emotions
Negative emotions are also one of the reasons for couples' apathy. The so-called negative emotions refer to negative emotions such as mental depression, worry, and depression. Experts believe that various negative audio-visual sensations can cause negative emotions, which can lead to decreased sexual excitement and frigidity. For negative emotions, we should learn to regulate our own emotions, release negative emotions through exercise and other vent methods, read more meaningful books, or participate in meaningful activities, in order to fill ourselves with positive energy.
Only by finding the real culprit that leads to couples' apathy can we pay more attention and avoid it in ordinary times, and can we make the relationship between couples go on for a longer time.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)