Post Date December, 03 2023
Although we just got married and got along quite well, there are some details that make me headache. Actually, it's not much of a big deal, mainly because there are some conflicts in the lifestyle habits or work methods of the two people. As the older generation said, couples need to blend in. So, our marriage is quite satisfactory.
Once, the old lady next door came to my house as a guest and accidentally talked to the old lady about the old man's love for cleanliness. From the old lady's words, she did not feel any dissatisfaction, but rather felt that she lived happily with the old man. She said that when she first fell in love with the old man, she discovered that he had a slight cleanliness habit. After the two got married, the young old man always kept the house organized, which saved the old lady a lot of worry.
In this way, the two lived for most of their lives. Sometimes the children also don't understand their father's approach, and the old man who loves cleanliness often attracts resentment from neighbors and colleagues. However, the old lady always feels that this is the advantage of her husband and doesn't feel too unreasonable. The old lady also said that she has a habit of snoring herself, and the old man is also very tolerant of her. Until now, whenever the old man doesn't hear her snoring, he will feel uneasy. Through tolerance, they learned to appreciate each other, and along the way, it made them cherish each other's love even more, which is why they are so in love now.
Only couples who understand mutual appreciation are happy
In marital life, it is not necessarily the other person's talent that couples appreciate each other, because talent varies, and beauty also fades over time. Appreciation should be multifaceted, ranging from gentle nature, to mutual understanding and pleasure, to diligence and simplicity, to humor and wit, and even to a small flaw. As long as one is good at affirming each other, couples can understand how to appreciate each other. Of course, both the male and female partners need to pay attention to their own cultivation and improve their own level in order to attract more appreciation from the other party.
Experts have said: To love someone, one cannot only love their strengths, but cannot tolerate any flaws in the other person. We appreciate the nobility and elegance of the Venus girl, even if she has a broken arm. We still treat art like this, let alone a lover who will accompany you for the rest of your life. As the saying goes, 'No gold without bare feet, no man without perfection', some subtle flaws can actually highlight the strengths and authenticity of the other party.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
