Sexual Health
After my husband's infidelity, openly cohabiting with my mistress has left me feeling unbearable
I am 47 years old and my husband is 48 years old. My husband has been cheating. He has been cohabiting with Xiao San in public for almost a year, and he ran away from home again for her. How can we recover it? That woman's husband was also taken away by the mistress and gave birth to a child. She is now robbing my husband and often texting and cursing me, but my husband is just making a splash. He always stares at his phone, and the other person sends WeChat and calls and goes out to live for a month to come home. It has been a year now, and I have tried my best to persuade and stop him, putting family reputation first, but he doesn't listen at all. He is really helpless, he is 50 years old, why would this happen?
I am 45 years old and have good family conditions. There is a boy whose husband is a real estate owner. I feel that my husband is with that woman for the sake of profit. My husband works in direct sales, and that woman can introduce clients to him. He is the doorstep son-in-law of my family who arrived at the age of 15. He told me that these years have been quite oppressive, but he is very kind to me. He also said that being with my mistress is very homesick, and he shed tears in front of me.
He also gave me the money he received from his mistress, and my father passed away at 47. I regarded him as my destiny, but I couldn't bear to part with him. I reminded him not to listen, and the woman also tempted me with her interests. It seems that she really loves my husband and often sends me text messages to give up. He didn't come back, and slowly I no longer looked forward to it, but as soon as he came back to stay for two days, I stayed up all night and it was even more painful. But he is both on WeChat and on the phone, with a 24-hour mobile phone. Initially, he wanted to leave the house clean, but now he knows he regrets it, but he doesn't want to lose the opportunity to earn money, so he procrastinates and doesn't want to divorce.
I don't know what to do?
reply:
1. Your husband and mistress have been openly cohabiting together for almost a year, and you have chosen to remain silent and endure this because you dare not face it and are afraid of losing this man. Why are you so weak? It's just because you rely too much on this man, so much that you lose yourself, even your dignity, and your bottom line. Another thing is that you think your husband has no feelings for that woman and only uses it to get the benefits he wants, just to get a chance to turn over. So you sympathize with your husband and accept him, even if he betrays you in a high profile, you don't think so. Although you are also suffering from this, you don't know what to do at all? However, you need to understand that in the face of a man's infidelity, women cannot sit idly by and choose to be numb. No matter for what reason, a man's betrayal is unforgivable, and he must be made to pay the price for his irresponsible behavior. Otherwise, how could he possibly improve you and give you peace of mind? You should know that even if it's your momentary confusion, it's a form of indulgence. Continuing like this will only make this man fall deeper and deeper, becoming less principled and less responsible for marriage.
2. Women must remember that at any time, marriage is not the whole of life, and husband is not their only one. Don't live for others, let alone lose yourself. In the end, oneself is the master of oneself. You said that you regard your husband as fate, but obviously you have fallen into an extreme relationship. Once you overly attach to this man, you lose yourself, and you are very prone to injury and confusion. Your life will be unstable due to the changes in this man, and you will not be able to obtain the desired sense of happiness and security. Excuse me, is this kind of marriage life still interesting?
3. It is natural for men to earn money to support their families, and it is also their responsibility. However, a gentleman loves wealth and uses what methods and channels to obtain profits. As a woman, she must guard her husband well. Otherwise, what should this man do if he goes astray and tries the law? What if there is no peaceful day at home?
4. This man is obviously spoiled by you, and if he continues to choose to fall shamelessly in the future, he will definitely have half of your responsibility. Whether he wants to turn over or is unwilling to be poor, please strictly demand that he take the right path from now on, not immediately make money, but only hope that he is upright and upright. Otherwise, let him go quickly. If you can be crisp and agile, perhaps this man can still be saved. If you continue to hesitate, your marriage will not be far from broken.
Women should be ruthless. For the sake of the basic bottom line and principles of right and wrong in life, whether it's towards themselves or others, at critical moments, if you're not ruthless enough, you won't have a good life. Believe it or not, it's up to you.