Sexual Health
After marriage, I fell seriously ill and was neglected by my husband's family. My husband began to dislike me for being ugly and kicked me out of the house
After being introduced, I married a young man five miles away from my family. One month after marriage, I became pregnant, and my husband works from home, living a relatively happy life. The good times don't last long. More than a year after the child was born, I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis due to frequent leg pain. At first, the husband's family said they would treat the illness, but they never gave him any money. This year, the husband told his family that he had gone to Xi'an to collaborate with others for decoration, but he took away all the money from the family. He also borrowed 30000 yuan from three other households and 20000 yuan from his sister. Later on, I found out that he had gone into pyramid schemes, but it didn't make sense to talk to him.
Starting from this year, I have borrowed all the money for medical treatment from my mother's house, and my mother-in-law is also unwilling to let me go to the hospital to buy some painkillers. My husband has never cared about me since I got this disease, and he still dislikes me for not cleaning up the house. After drinking, he even said that I look ugly and wouldn't let me sleep in front of him at night. The conflict has been intensified like this. My husband asked me to leave, kicked me out of the house, and stopped me from staying at his house. That's all. I have been living at my mother's house for over two months now. Now, what should I do?
reply:
1. Your experience has just confirmed the saying "husband and wife are birds in the same forest, flying each other when a big disaster comes". As the saying goes, poor couples mourn for everything, and perhaps the most testing moment for their relationship is when disasters, illnesses, and accidents come. From this, it seems that your husband and in-laws are not good people, but a group of cold and ruthless people. Through this matter, they have seen their true faces clearly.
2. There is no way out, this society will always have its imperfect side, and it is inevitable to highlight the dark side of human emotions and the desolation of the world. However, it is better to be open-minded. People should not feel helpless just because they encounter misfortune, but also have confidence to face themselves and everything in front of them. I believe that learning to strengthen oneself and help oneself will definitely bring in help from others and heaven.
3. Faced with the ruthlessness and indifference of your mother-in-law's family, if it doesn't make sense to reason with them and they don't care about human feelings at all, then don't count on their family. You have already been kicked out of the house by this cruel man. Go for the last fight, have a good conversation, and see their true attitude. If the possibility of continuing to be together is slim or hopeless, and he completely refuses the marital relationship, then there is nothing to say. Agree a divorce, protect your own rights. If negotiation fails, you must protect your rights through the law. You are weak, sick, and have such a small child, and I believe the law will protect you, I will give you a fair ruling.
4. Sincerely remind unmarried men and women that they must keep their eyes open in love and choose the right person for marriage. More understanding, more testing, don't let yourself be too hurt in your relationship. Finding someone who truly loves you is better than ten thousand taels of gold. Marrying someone who can be responsible for you is a lifetime of luck. When you encounter someone who can accompany you at any time and never give up on you, you should know how to cherish and learn to care.