Sexual Health
After marriage, does the wife have an affair, and is it necessary to be together without love
It is not uncommon for couples to have affairs after marriage, and it is often accompanied by a series of classic questions. Is it necessary to be together without love? Is one of the difficulties.
In the face of this difficult problem, the husband needs to analyze it hierarchically. The question that the husband is confused about already contains two preconditions in essence: the first is that the wife has an affair after marriage; The second is that love is gone.
From the first premise, a husband needs to understand the reasons for his wife's affairs after marriage:
1. She had an extra extramarital heterosexual relationship before marriage, and still maintained this intimate connection after marriage.
2. "She just cheated after marriage because she was dissatisfied with her current marital life.".
3. She has opinions about her husband and is unwilling to face up to the marital relationship, choosing to avoid problems through extramarital affairs.
For the above three reasons, my husband makes appropriate judgments and choices based on his own observations and experiences. If this is the first point, it indicates that the wife's behavior and attitude towards marriage are extremely irresponsible, treating marriage as a child's play, and flooding with emotions. If it is the second point, it indicates that there are disharmonious factors in family life, such as: the family economy is not abundant, life pressure is high, and the unfriendly attitude of parents-in-law makes the wife feel worried and tired physically and mentally; If it is the third point, it indicates that there is a gap in the relationship between the husband and wife, and the wife keeps a distance from her husband, the farther the two hearts become apart. The husband may wish to reflect on his own temperament, attitude, moral character, psychology, work, sexual ability, and comparison before and after marriage. Ask yourself if there have been significant changes or behavioral deviations, leaving the wife at a loss and blindly seeking to vent.
From the second premise, a husband should correctly define the feeling of losing love:
1. She ignores you, ignores you, and is intent on running out and throwing herself into the arms of others.
2. "You hate her betrayal, can't bear her infidelity in your heart, and no longer trust this marriage.".
3. One party reveals their feelings of lovelessness and wants to break up peacefully, while the other party is unwilling to give up easily.
Is love really gone? As a party, my husband has his own profound experience. Combining the above three points, my husband honestly gives me an answer. Many times, things may not be that serious, but it is difficult to accept the unbearable things that have happened to you for a moment, and it is inevitable that many thoughts will arise in your heart.
Finally, is it necessary to be together?
After analyzing the first two prerequisites, my husband may have realized some thoughts. The relationship between husband and wife is built by fate. No one is perfect, and there are always mistakes. As a husband, if you truly love her and can tolerate her acceptance in your heart, it's better to give each other a chance. You can redouble your love for your wife, talk sincerely with her, and let her know that you are not indulging her or ignoring her misbehavior, but rather loving her deeply and willing to help her understand herself and the relationship between husband and wife.
On the contrary, if the wife's attitude is very bad, her behavior is high-profile, exaggerated, and her husband's heart is particularly angry and depressed, which seriously affects life, work, and psychology, then follow her heart and seek another marriage and start a new love.