Sexual Health
Accompanying him through hardships, he thought I was a burden when his career was mature
Q:
Teacher, I am very distressed. I don't know how to get rid of my current predicament. I feel that I am wrong no matter what choice I make.
First of all, the biggest problem I face is that my husband was encouraged by my junior to divorce me. He has been talking about it since the year before. My son, my husband sent me back to his hometown behind my back, but my parents-in-law insisted that the child was not there. I don't know how my husband handled the problem of the child's school status. I am extremely worried. The child is in the fifth grade this year and will be promoted to the junior high school next year. The educational resources in his hometown are incomparable with this, I can't understand my husband's behavior.
You should not lose your child's future for adults!
But my husband said that unless I agree to divorce and accept his divorce conditions, I can't expect to see the children.
How can he be so cruel?
In fact, after his career gradually developed, I obviously felt that his attitude towards me was getting worse and worse, and the whole person felt very impetuous. At the most difficult time of our life, none of his relatives was willing to lend money to him. He completely forgot that it was my parents who lent him the house to mortgage to the bank to get the money. He didn't want to mention it at all. After he made money, he was generous to his relatives. My parents didn't even hear a word of thanks from him.
He always said that my parents looked down on him. How early was it? Chen sesame rotten millet, how can a man be so narrow-minded. I suppose so, but I have never looked down on him? Why is he doing this to me now?
I accompanied him to endure hardship. Because of poor nutrition, my menstruation came only once for more than half a year, and my body was poor. Later, I raised him for a long time before I was pregnant with a child. He didn't remember all these? Only he and I know how many sleepless nights we have had along the way, how much pressure and how much burden we have had to endure.
Now it's good that he has started his career, and other women came up to give him a hug. He did not refuse, but readily accepted. I, on the contrary, became a burden to him. He disliked me and said I was like an old woman more than once. He didn't spend much time at home. Even at home, he was evil, and his children also followed him. The children hated me a little.
I feel that I am really a failure to do this. Can only divorce? I didn't care about his affairs with the third child. I just wanted to bring the child up and watch the child make a difference. But now he has to deprive him of this tiny wish. His divorce condition is to give me a lump sum of money once, and the child belongs to him. I can see the child at most once a month (say I will have a bad impact on the child), and the meeting time should not exceed half a day. Is that true? Does he have a conscience?
I am really desperate, and I am still struggling to support because of my children. How can I rest assured of his father's appearance? Teacher, help me!!!
A:
The first time he spoke to you about divorce, you should come to find us.
We will guide you to take some measures quickly to prevent him from transferring his property and transferring his children to school.
Now, first of all, determine where he will foster the child. Let your mother and son see him and contact him before making other plans. Mother and son are connected. Even if the child lacks discrimination, is guided by his father's words and deeds, and has disrespectful behavior towards you, it is the child who is the most unwilling to separate his parents in such a situation.
You also need to clear your mind. When a man has a certain harvest in his career, he is most likely to expand. At this time, what he exposes is the weakness of human nature. He forgets his own nature. Whether it is necessary to help him find it is your decision.
The mistress plays a catalytic role in this process. Surrounded by women, men mistakenly think that they are successful and that it is no longer important to have a wife. The fact is that many men regret after divorce. They find that the third is not as good as their wife, and even the third makes their life a mess. The reason is very simple. The wife loves the family, the husband loves the children, and the need for marriage is safe and stable. Therefore, they are willing to tolerate and even make some sacrifices. But the third is not for marriage. Their need for "becoming a regular" is based on desire, but human desire, It is a bottomless hole. If there is no external force involved, they will not reach their goal and will not yield.