Home is a very interesting word, just looking at it makes you feel warm. Both men and women have a paranoid love for their own homes. This is a space that belongs entirely to them, allowing them to paint freely without worrying about secular perspectives or feeling spiritual pressure. This is a warm harbor for complete relaxation of mind. No matter how far you go, your home is right there, not far or near. Therefore, men are always surprisingly cautious about marriage when it comes to forming a family, and they are not as careless as they appear.
When a man falls in love, he likes a woman with a beautiful face and good figure, but when he gets married, he likes a virtuous and gentle woman. The wife and lover are two different individuals, and the wife may not be beautiful, but she must be virtuous. Most women mistakenly believe that men are animals that love beauty, but in reality, they are not. Men do crave beauty and enjoy having long breasts, long legs, and slender waists. However, if they marry a wife who is too beautiful, they will not be willing because they lack a sense of security. Food, sex, and liking beautiful things is not a fault, but having beautiful things also requires strength. Men have always been very self aware. This is also the cunning and shrewdness of men. Women cannot see anything else for the sake of love, while men will clearly see reality. In ancient times, whether it was a poor scholar or a rich scholar or a poor girl, both were tragedies. The former tragedy lies in the fact that the rich lady cannot see reality clearly and flies into the fire for love. Scholars all have the so-called scholar spirit, and also have a sensitive mentality of being inferiority due to poverty and arrogance due to talent and learning. The rich lady follows him, and when he wins in the middle of the month, he will marry someone else because the rich lady is not helpful for his career. He enters the rich lady's family, and his proud and inferiority complex heart cannot tolerate others discussing behind his back that he started his family by his wife, and he eats soft food, but ultimately ends up unhappy. The latter lies in the fact that wealthy scholars can see reality clearly, and poor girls are just a romantic history of his life journey. He knows his identity clearly, and even if infatuated, he will eventually return to his class and marry a woman who is beneficial to him.
In fact, whether in ancient or modern times, the outcome of this model is similar. Because the essence of men has not changed, the essence of women has not changed. Even if ideas become diverse, in the same story, the ending will be the same throughout history, both in China and abroad. Otherwise, why do most fairy tales end with "From then on, they lived happily together"? Because once we write about marriage, as depicted in the siege, the two people in marriage are like birds in a cage, with the birds inside wanting to go out and the birds outside wanting to come in.
Women get married because of love, and the reasons for men getting married are much more complex. For example, if the family is in a hurry and he wants to get married, or if he wants to find someone to take care of his daily life, or because he has children, there are various reasons. Men are all real animals, and marriage is also one of the transactions. He only wants to marry her when he can benefit from his married life. If a woman doesn't know how to do household chores, doesn't work, and doesn't have a good family background, I don't think any man would be willing to marry her. Marrying an ancestor is not as good as living alone. But if that woman is very virtuous and can keep her home clean and warm, it can make her feel comfortable and relaxed after a day of work. Even if a woman doesn't go out to work, a man is willing to marry her back home. If that woman is capable and can bring benefits to her career, even if she has no relationship with the other person, she will still be willing to marry. Emotions are all developed in daily life, and even if she cannot give love, she can still have a little more warmth in her daily life. If a man wants to get married, he will consider the other party completely and calculate the gains and losses, feeling that he will not lose money before he is willing to get married. So if a woman is proposed by a man, don't feel that their love for you has been sublimated. Perhaps he just doesn't want to live a cold life with cold bedding and cold food every day, or maybe it's because the family is pressing him hard and he happens to be with you.
There are many men who have excellent girlfriends, but marry ordinary wives. If a woman does not have assistance, a man is not willing to please a woman like in love, but rather hopes that his wife is weak and pleasing him. A man's choice for marriage is appropriate, not deep love. If he can love deeply and is suitable, it is naturally icing on the cake. If he cannot, it doesn't matter much.